Post # 1
Ok so here’s my problem….. Me and my army boyfriend are getting married this summer in the courthouse. But nobody knows about it and we want to have the “real” wedding in a year or so. But when we do have the real thing, I know my boyfriend mom wants us to use her minister to get married. If we tell the minister that we are already married he will tell the parents and we will be screwed. So can anyone tell me what the process is in a ceremonial wedding when it comes to legalizing it… Is there anyway to get around it? If the minister files the paperwork for the wedding, would we get in trouble for doing it twice?
Post # 3
There’s really no way to do this…in order to trick the minister (because let’s be real…that’s pretty much what you’re talking about doing), you would need a marriage license for him to sign and fill out. You won’t be able to get one because you’ll already be married…and he’ll have the same problem with filing it. Why are you not wanting to tell your parents that you’re wanting to get married this summer, why not wait and have a real wedding with no quotation marks needed? I’m assuming it’s for military reasons, but I guess I just don’t see the need to do it this way. It just seems like a really bad idea to start off your marriage with a lie like that…
Post # 4
I agree with WS.
But IF you do wish to still do the two…. Technically the minister doesn’t need to tell the parents. only the people WITNESSING the lisence signing. Which is normally your MoH and Bridesmaid or Best Man. Keep in mind though that your parents will know the moment they look at your lisence that you were previously married.
If you like going complicated the only way to fully make it not known to you parents would be to get married now, divorce before the next wedding, and then get married again….
But I still think you really should just wait or explain to your parents now why you wish to marry now.