(Closed) Wedding 2 years away but I want to start getting dress ideas..

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee

My fiance and I got engaged in May and are waiting until April 2014 to get married. It will mark 5 years for us and, like you, I’m a perfectionist and love having all kinds of time to plan! I would definitely go ahead and start looking for dresses just to get an idea of the silhouette or style you like on you. I would be honest about your date, if they’re a reputable place they shouldn’t turn you away. Lots of people have long engagements.

I knew exactly what I wanted and found my dress for a steal before we were even engaged (it was in April of 2012 and I knew the ring was right around the corner). You may be surprised when you start looking and find the dress of your dreams. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

A lot of bees would warn you to not pick a dress too early because you might not like it as much when it gets closer to your wedding date. That being said, I think that you should start trying on different styles of dresses at a salon. I don’t know if they’d turn you away for being over two years out, but typically they only ask you about your date to make conversation.

Anyway, I am in a similar situation, except that I’m even further out. Weddingbee tends to be my main outlet at this point, but I did buy a dress that I might wear one day. Granted, it was a dress from eBay (vintage 1940s-1950s) that cost less than $75 shipped, so it wasn’t a huge investement, but it’ll be an option when I get engaged. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@primadonna5:  So in that case, make a bridal salon appointment, try on MANY different dress styles, and get a better idea of what you’d like. I wouldn’t purchase one just yet, but see what styles flatter your body the best. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@primadonna5:  i don’t think that there’s any harm in looking and trying on dresses but i’m not sure about making a purchase yet.  there’s no rush. it will be nice to see what shapes and styles suit your body and personality.

if you buy your dress too early you may run into a few issues:  more time for the obvious dress regret; looking through magazines/online and finding another nicer dress, new styles and trends coming in; style of wedding has changed and dress won’t match the theme; someone else you know may end up in the same dress before you (some brides don’t like that).

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

PLEASE learn from my mistakes.  We had an almost-2-year long engagement (June 2011 – March 2013) and the length of time was perfect for us, but I bought my dress exactly one year out from the wedding and in retrospect, I wish I had waited another three months or so.  I wound up losing some weight and found out today my alterations are going to cost half of what the dress cost.  If I had waited a little longer, I might not be having to spend so much.

 

Also, I’ve struggled with dress regret, because so many dresses come out each year and there were so many more I wanted to try.  I suppose some people will always be tempted by new dresses, but I think I could have found something a little more contemporary for myself if I waited a bit longer.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@primadonna5:  Just be careful, lol.  I went to a dress shop swearing up and down that I wasn’t leaving with a dress that day. 

I left with the fifth dress I tried on Undecided.

 

Sometimes, they tempt you with sales and stuff. In my case, I was in a state where I wouldn’t be charged sales tax, saving me a couple hundred dollars.  

I’d say you should focus on other things like your venue, vendors, etc.  And after you’ve narrowed those down, you can start looking for a dress that fits with all of those. I worry that my gown is too formal for my Country Club venue, but what can I do at this point?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Although it doesnt’ hurt to look and no store will tell you “no,” if you are going to play dress up with no intent of buying please don’t waste the owner/sales peoples time.

I know that sounds rude, but as someone who worked in retail for years it is really frusterating when someone is just playing around and taking up time when you could be making sales goals.  

Wait until you are a year away.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Let me tell you my story.  I am super picky like it takes me going to three different stores just to find a pair of jeans. So I was thinking I’m just going to go look at dresses, see what looks good on me and what I like in person, not just in pictures.  And we’re talking aobut possible moving the wedding up a year so I thought I might as well go and look.  I wasn’t going to buy anything I even left my wallet at home to stop myself.  Well I went and my consultent pulled a beautiful dress and I absolutly fell in love with it.  But I didn’t have my wallet so I left the store with out my dress.  I went home and thought about it was back at the store 2 days later to buy it, I couldn’t stop thinking about it and I wasn’t going to miss out on it ๐Ÿ™‚  I don’t regret it at all, my body may change but that is why I’m going to hold off on the alterations.  So go try on dresses but be careful because you could fall in love with a dress right away.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

I chose my dress right away, I was so excited to finally be engaged and I ended up with dress regret. Fortunately I was able to sell my first dress and buy my true dream dress. I think its awesome to get an idea of what looks good on you and what style you are looking for. But as for actually buying wait until the 12 months before your wedding because designers will come out with new styles. Its hard to wait but financially and stress-wise it will be smarter. I really stressed about selling my first dress and it was horrible.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@primadonna5:  Congrats! And welcome to the long engagement club! My wedding will be june of 2015 as well ๐Ÿ™‚ Go try on dresses who cares what they think!

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