Post # 1
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Helper bee
GIRLSSSS
I am BESIDE myself. >_<
He said he wanted space, which I am HAPPY to give him…
I am just feeling so “OMG WHAT DID I DO? WHAT *DO* I DO?”
I am probably overreacting.
Needless to say, he is getting his space! It’s hard but I have been a good girl and have not contacted him since yesterday when it happened.
He said he still wants to marry me, he just needs some “alone” time. We are long distance and I think he is realizing that very soon he won’t be near his friends/family and wants some time off of “us”, and more with them/for himself.
OK that’s cool!!! Totally fine with that… everyone needs time, especially right before a big move.
I guess it hurt me a little (a leeeetle) because we are already long distance so in my brain, I’m like “there is already thousands of miles of space between us what more do you want wahhhhhh::CRIES::” but ah well, what can ya do.
I just wanted to vent because I don’t know what’s going to come of this (I don’t know how long he wants to be on a break for – could he possibly want to postpone the wedding because he’s not ready? D: D: D: ) …and I have decided to put ALL wedding-related things on hold. Which is scary because it is so close, and so much still has to be done.
Also, I haven’t told anyone except for my sister (also a BM).
omggggg ok END RANT!
Post # 3
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Helper bee
ok that is some weirdass formatting hahaha sorry I hope it is still readable lol
Post # 4
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Helper bee
@kmaemu: Ummm…this does not seem like a good situation. I can understand feeling overwhelmed about a major move/change, but shouldn’t he be confiding in you, not pushing you away?
Only you can be sure, but it doesn’t seem like this bodes well for your relationship. Perhaps you two need to have a serious discussion about your current circumstances/future, rather than not talking. How long of a break does he want? What does he think that will accomplish?
If you are LDR, it is a little strange he needs “more space.” It may just be stress, but I would suggest calling him up and getting to the bottom of this.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
@kmaemu: He needs more time for himself and family/friends when you guys are already LD? Soo what… You’re texting or couple phone calls take up too much of his time? I could understand stand if you lived there and he said he needed to be spending more time before you guys moved somewhere else buuuut.. This just doesn’t jive with me.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
@maya2008: Oh nooo >_< . Yeah it has made me pretty uptight to be honest. I couldn’t sleep at ALL last night.
I REALLY want to call him up and just talk it out, but then I also don’t want to put hiim under any more stress or pressure, which is why he said he wanted the space to begin with.
Maybe I should ring him up … but maybe after 1-2 more days of not talking? sigh.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
@kmaemu: How long have you two been together? How long have you been LDR? How old are you two?
I am just curious more for context.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
@sunshine_kar: You’re right. It doesn’t feel right. But then I keep thinking, that “everyone needs a little time away” (lol, yay for Chicago lyrics)… I think it’s cuz he wants more of his weekends back? We usually talk a lot on the weekends (webcam, chat, whatever) since during the week we are both really busy with work. I really cherish that weekend time we had… but maybe it was too much for him. sigh ;(
Post # 9
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Busy bee
I don’t understand how you can already be long distance but need space, especially right before getting married. Something is sketchy.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
@maya2008: We’ve been together 6 years. i’m 26 and he’s 30
Post # 11
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Helper bee
@kmaemu: How long LDR?
I only ask because at 30, I would think he is old enough and hopefully mature enough to know what he wants in life. If you two are LDR and do not talk much during the week, then that should be plenty of space already.
I could see wanting some of his weekends back depending on how much time you spend talking/web chatting, but you’d think he would want to talk on the weekends.
Personally, I would be calling him up and having an adult discussion about this, ASAP!
Post # 12
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Helper bee
@JemmaWRX: I am so glad I posted this on WB… I was totally not expecting the perspectives I’m getting now…it really helps. I think I need to call him up and have a chat. :S
Post # 13
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Busy bee
I don’t understand how he is planning on dealing with thw two of you LIVING TOGETHER if you’re already LD and he still “needs space.” Something is not right here :/
Post # 14
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Busy bee
@kmaemu: Well he needs to man up and get over it. Web chats, phone calls, etc on the weekends when you’re long distance. Its called making an effort. He doesn’t want to do that for you four months before your wedding?
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
@JemmaWRX: agreed!! Something is not right.
