(Closed) Wedding 4 months away and FI wants a "break." WAHHH

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@kmaemu:  Ummm…this does not seem like a good situation. I can understand feeling overwhelmed about a major move/change, but shouldn’t he be confiding in you, not pushing you away?

Only you can be sure, but it doesn’t seem like this bodes well for your relationship. Perhaps you two need to have a serious discussion about your current circumstances/future, rather than not talking. How long of a break does he want? What does he think that will accomplish?

If you are LDR, it is a little strange he needs “more space.” It may just be stress, but I would suggest calling him up and getting to the bottom of this.

Post # 5
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709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@kmaemu:  He needs more time for himself and family/friends when you guys are already LD? Soo what… You’re texting or couple phone calls take up too much of his time? I could understand stand if you lived there and he said he needed to be spending more time before you guys moved somewhere else buuuut..  This just doesn’t jive with me.

Post # 7
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@kmaemu:  How long have you two been together? How long have you been LDR? How old are you two?

I am just curious more for context.

Post # 9
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

 I don’t understand how you can already be long distance but need space, especially right before getting married.  Something is sketchy.

Post # 11
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@kmaemu:  How long LDR?

I only ask because at 30, I would think he is old enough and hopefully mature enough to know what he wants in life. If you two are LDR and do not talk much during the week, then that should be plenty of space already.

I could see wanting some of his weekends back depending on how much time you spend talking/web chatting, but you’d think he would want to talk on the weekends.

Personally, I would be calling him up and having an adult discussion about this, ASAP!

Post # 13
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558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t understand how he is planning on dealing with thw two of you LIVING TOGETHER if you’re already LD and he still “needs space.” Something is not right here :/

Post # 14
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709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@kmaemu:  Well he needs to man up and get over it. Web chats, phone calls, etc on the weekends when you’re long distance. Its called making an effort. He doesn’t want to do that for you four months before your wedding?

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