(Closed) Wedding a week away – Photographer drama!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I say pay the $500, because I don’t see how you’ll be able to find another photographer on that short notice for any less than that. 🙁

Edit: I saw that you’d pay a greater price. Still, I wonder if you could even find somebody new at this point. Have you put out feelers with other photogs?

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Has she ever done a wedding before? Have a website?

You shouldn’t feel cheated about having to pay her. I may talk about everything with her first. Say you were under the impression it was a gift and that you’d love to pay her but don’t have that much in budget. See if you can negotiate a price. Usually first time wedding photogs charge nothing because they just need the experience, I wouldn’t feel comfortable paying $500 to someone who’s never done a wedding unless they have quite the impressive portfolio.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Pay her and have her sign a contract with everything you want done so she can’t change things on you again

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I definitely wouldn’t just pay her. It sounds like her brother put her up to it.  She must’ve realized before she wasn’t getting paid since she didn’t ask for anything before! Plus, what person that expects to be paid for their work asks their client how much they were planning on paying? I would be super pissed. Has she even done weddings before?

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

The only reason I think you should pay is because you are putting her in charge of your wedding pics, and she could potentially “ruin” them by not doing a good job. You’d hope she wouldn’t, but by paying her $500 you are ensuring that she will do a good job.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Reading your post my question as well was has this person shot a wedding before? $500 may not be a good price if they have not. I would definitely try to negotiate and get it in writing even if it’s just an email so there’s no way they can hold your pictures hostage. I’m so sorry you’re being put in such a stressful situation so close to your big day.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would definately pay her the $500.00. You should at the very least pay her costs. Because she is a friend of yours, she may have not made herself clear to you at the beginning.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ugg, so sorry you’re having to deal with this. I think it’s super shady of her to pull this crap NOW so close to your wedding. I don’t know that you really have any options besides paying her the $500. If you don’t she could get even more shady on you by not showing up or ruining your pictures on purpose. I agree that you should put it in writing. Tell her that you were under the assumption that you were operating on a friendship and trust but now you feel the need to have a more formal, business agreement given the circumstances. She definitely needs to know that what she did was tacky and unprofessional (especially if she is going to try to get more business in the future). I would make sure to include the types of pictures she will be obligated to take, time she is expected to be there, printing release, any editing, and a deadline for getting the pictures returned to you. She needs to understand that this is NOT how you operate any type of business. Oh, and I would definitely negioate that price. You should tell her that since she wasn’t upfront with you on the cost that you hadn’t budgeted for it but that you would be willing to pay her xxxx amount and provide her with food and pay for her other necessary costs.

I HATE doing business with friends for this very reason. I hope it all gets worked out and you have some rockin pictures. Congrats on your wedding by the way.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m sorry you’re going through this but I would just say If you were happy with the work for the engagement photos then pay the $500 but get her to put it in writing now so that a month after the wedding you don’t get stiffed your photos or what have you.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just to add to the thought I might suggest agreeing to pay her the $500 but pay her half now and the other half upon delivery of the pics because I’m not sure that I would trust her not to change the agreement again since she’s already done it once.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

If you do pay her the $500, you need to throw together a quick contract before you give her any money. I just thought about that.I also agree with Cricket that half now, half delivery would be the best idea also.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It really does sound like a miscommunication, but I still think you should go with her.  It will be even more money and drama to try to find someone else at this point.  But before you give her any money GET A CONTRACT! I would suggest making sure it says 1. how long she will stay 2. a minimum number of shots she will take 3. exactly what you will receive after the wedding (prints, cd, copyright, etc.) 4. how much you are agreeing to pay her any when.  I agree with the pps that you should say you’ll pay half now and half upon receiving the photos.  Asking her to do this is good for the both of you.  It protects you and it gives her experience in operating a real professional exchange of services for money (experience she clearly needs!)

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I would be scared to pay her. She might hold a grudge and potentially ruin your wedding photos. Plus engagment photos are alot easier than action, wedding photos. But it might be hard for you to find a photog now so close to the wedding. They will charge you even more because of the last minute scheduling. They know that they have you in that situation. If the photos aren’t super important to you maybe you can have people bring their digital cameras and take pictures or put disposables at the tables and have the guests take pictures. I can see why you wouldnt want to pay in this situation. And it sounds shady with her having the brother call. It sounds like she knew that you had an agreement and had him do her dirty work by calling you about the fee. That would make me nervous. If you have to use her, I would only pay half upfront and the rest when you get the pictures. I would also draw up a quick contract.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

It does sound pretty lame, and if she expected payment, she should have been upfront about that from the front.  $500 does sound like an awful lot for someone who hasn’t done a wedding before.  Ever.  I would agree to $250, and then IF you are satisfied with the way the photos turn out, she gets the other $250.  WHATEVER you agree to with her, get it in writing this time!

Good luck!!!

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