Post # 1
When we have our wedding, it will be 9 years for being together. We have 3 children (2 from a previous relationship that he has raised) and most of his friends call me his wife and my friends call him my husband. Is it tacky for us to want to share our day with everyone? Will people think we just want gifts? I just want a big celebration to share the fact that we are FINALLY legally and in the eyes of God, MARRIED. Will people think different?
Post # 3
Some people might, but I for sure wouldn’t. If you’re worried about people thinking you’re gift-grabbing, spread it around by word of mouth that you guys aren’t interested in gifts.
Post # 4
@gemchicini: I would be very excited for you.
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s tacky at all! I think your friends and family would be delighted to celebrate your marriage with you. But then, I just got married two weeks ago and we’ve been together 8.5 years 🙂 We don’t have any kids, but I don’t think that should make a difference. I say you guys are good to go!
Post # 6
Since you’re not already married, it’s your WEDDING. Of course you want to celebrate, and I wouldn’t think any different. If you don’t want gifts I would spread the word on that.
Post # 7
My cousin married her husband after 9 years. They had the whole shebang and not a single person complained. Go for it!
Post # 8
It doesn’t matter what people think, but I’m sure most of them will be happy that you two are getting married (legally).
I’m in a similar situation, 8 years, 3 kids and we are finally planning for our wedding next year! FI already calls me his wife, and has been for a few years now 🙂 but we just want to make it real on paper. Both our families already refer us as husband and wife.
I don’t think its tacky to want to celebrate your love and commitment to one another, its beautiful!
PS. On my invitiations I want to add something like:
Ms & Mr invite you to celebrate their love and commitment as they (FINALLY) get married! (your post reminded me of that) 🙂
Post # 9
I agree with PPs, I think your loved ones will be absolutely thrilled to celebrate your wedding and marriage with you. Congrats, and enjoy!!
Post # 10
Everyone will be thrilled to celebrate with you, and if they’re not, they don’t have to attend! My husband and I were married after being together nearly 10 years. We didn’t have children, just met young, and wanted to accomplish other things before focusing on our marriage and planning a wedding. We had a blast, and our guests did, too. Enjoy!!
Post # 11
Thank you Everyone! I was hoping that would be the consensus. I guess I’m freaking out. @ohulani, I think adding something like that is a great idea! I am going to do something like that too.
Post # 12
My husband (eeee!) and I just tied the knot this past weekend after 8+ years together. We don’t have any children together (we are both 28), but I can tell you that friends and family were no less excited to celebrate our union than they would have been had we done it years earlier.
The time was right for us. And our day was magical. Yours will be too!!
Post # 13
congrats!!! i think it is a MUST to celebrate with family and friends being united in front of god…already having a beautiful family is adding on to dat
Post # 14
Anyone who’s worth a damn will be as excited for your wedding as anyone else’s. The fact that you already have your family makes the whole event even more of a celebration.
Post # 15
It’s your wedding! I don’t think anyone will judge you for wanting to celebrate! You’ve already been together longer than most marriages last, even more reason to celebrate!
FI and I will be together 8 1/2 years when we get married, I hope really hope no one judges us because of it!