Post # 1
My fiance and I are planning to have an after party at a bar next to the hotel following our wedding reception, but we’re not sure how to announce it. We want it to be more informal, and we didn’t want to pick and choose who to come by sending an evite or invitation insert. We’re considering just leaving it up to word of mouth, as we also don’t want the entire reception to follow us to the bar. Has had this type of informal after party, and how have you announced it?
Post # 2
We’re trusting a few good gossips to help us spread the news and will also be telling people ourselves. My fiance’s dad will definitely tell his side of the family, one of my college friends will probably tell our friends, and I’m sure I can enlist an aunt or uncle on my side to let my family know.
Post # 3
You said you don’t want to pick and choose…but then you said you don’t want the whole reception to go. Why?
What we did was just spread word of mouth for a few weeks ahead of time that we were headed downtown to the bars/clubs after our reception. I had a reception dress that was short and sparkly which I wore downtown. So fun. Anyway–we just continued to spread word of mouth that anyone who cared to join us was welcome, and that we’d be at “Bar” at 11pm. We had our entire wedding party, DH’s mom and stepdad, and a handful of other friends show up and show out, and it was amazing. We made a ton of new friends too, haha!
Honestly, I can’t imagine why you’d care if every last person from your day showed up to celebrate with you as that is the point, right? But I really don’t think you’ll have to worry. Most people will be done at the end of the reception, so it’s not like you’ll have to look after your grandpa at the bar. But hey, if grandpa wants to get down I say let him! 😉
Post # 4
We put it on the website as well as on the wedding program. It was in the hotel bar so most people didn’t have to go out of their way to attend because they were already staying at the hotel. Personally I wouldn’t leave it up to word ot mouth — there might be some people who really would want to attend that would miss out because they hadn’t heard the news. Especially people who don’t know a lot of other attendees — who are they going to hear from?
Our wedding ended at 9:30 (early!) and we had fewer than half of the guests attend the after-party — the locals all went home, and the people with kids went to bed. It was so much fun because we could really sit down and chat with the out-of-town people in a way we couldn’t at the wedding reception. Actually there was one girl who had to leave the reception very early because she had an allergic reaction and had to go to the hospital (long story), so the only time we really got to spend time with her was at the after-party when she got out of the hospital (and she knew about ahead of time because it was on the website and the program). I say the more the merrier for the after party.
Not everyone is going to come, only the people who really want to. Don’t worry about it being too many people!
Post # 5
That sounds like a lot of fun! We definitely do have a “more the merrier” mindset, I just don’t think the bar can accommodate 120 people!
Wow that sounds like a crazy story! That’s a really good point, and I do want everyone to know about it. We opted out of wedding programs though, so I’m trying to think of another way that we can spread the word that makes sense.
Post # 6
I would have a little card on each table suggesting this additional get-together and just tell a few good friends who will spread the news.
Believe me, after the ceremony, a full dinner and dancing at the reception most people will just want to go home. No need to worry about 120 people showing up because that’s not going to happen. The people who show up will be the “party animal” good friends– exactly who you WANT to be there.
But remember if you are inviting people to the bar for an additional party you are hosting it! Which means you are paying for everyone. People will be taken aback if they are invited to something but they have to end up paying for themselves!
Post # 7
We had it announced at the end of our reception for our Destination Wedding. For our local reception, we told the guests that we knew would definitely want to party afterwards, and the word spread like wildfire.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
We put it on our website. It’s not so much an after party as it is a “we’re going here after dinner. Feel free to swing by.” Our wedding ends at 8:00 and there won’t be any dancing, so we wanted to go somewhere else for a bit of fun. We’re going whether everyone comes or no one comes. I don’t think it has to be hosted, though.
Post # 9
We’ve been wondering the same thing and decided to let people know by word of mouth. In our case, we actually really DON’T want everyone from the reception coming because we really don’t want our parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and other old/religious people coming to our after party. We’d prefer it to be just our friends and siblings so we can really let loose! We will be “on” for our reception and will want to relax at the after party.
Post # 10
Our reception ended at midnight, and while the dance flor was still bumping some of the guests had definitely left. Like you, we wanted it super informal and more of a “hey we’re going to this bar” not “come to this after party.” It was mainly wedding party and friends no one was expecting their drinks to be paid for! Word of mouth and announcing it worked fine for us. An invitation or sign would indicate to me that someone was hosting the party.
Post # 11
Yes, to second what PP’s have said: if you send out any type of invite (whether it’s email, FB, paper, or cards on the table), it comes off as “we are hosting this party after our reception.” Which is fine, if that’s what you want to do.
But for just like everyone going out afterward, word of mouth and maybe a DJ announcement will ensure that people know where you’re headed but that you aren’t responsible for paying anyone’s cover/cost of drinks.