Post # 1
Well, it doesn’t help the venue I picked does almost everything. Both my ceremony and reception will be there. They provide the food, decorations (you could provide your own if you want), they provide the DJ (but we are using our own). The only thing really you need is you, your groom, your guests, your officiant, your chosen attire, and your cake if you want one.
I felt like I haven’t done anything, which may be awesome to some of you, but I’m kinda bummed out about that. I feel like I haven’t been in much control of my wedding. Because of lack of funds, I’m wearing my mom’s dress, I did do some further alterations to it myself though, easy stuff though. So I didn’t get to go shopping for my dress, which was what I would think is the most fun part in the whole wedding planning. And because my theme was a tea party, I did buy a lot of teacups, saucers, teapots. And I did buy the favors. And I did buy stuff for a fauxbooth, and help paint the props. And I plan to do my own nails and makeup, also due to lack of funds, and I have never liked anyone else doing my makeup. And I did pick my own cake vendor and what cake I want, and bought the most cutest wedding topper ever. I also bought stuff to do a tea/coffee bar, which I hope comes out okay.
My Mother-In-Law did the Save-The-Date Cards and Invitations and sent them out, my mom did my bouquets. And I was hoping to do my centerpiece flowers myself, but my Mother-In-Law has taken on that job.
Overall I just felt like I have really done much for my wedding or for preparing for it. It could be bad or good depending on the type of person you are. I like to be in control and like to feel busy. Overall, all I really did was just buy stuff, I didn’t really do much physical stuff.
Anyone else feel like they didn’t do much or felt like they didn’t do much for planning their wedding day? Anyone glad or not glad they didn’t do much?
Post # 2
raziel1687: “And I was hoping to do my centerpiece flowers myself, but my Mother-In-Law has taken on that job.”
So tell her “thanks for the offer, but I’m excited to work on the centerpieces myself.” This is your wedding, you should speak up and get involved in everything you can.
Post # 3
spiffanee: The only problem is I’m sick right now and am supposed to work 12 hours shifts tomorrow and Wednesday, And then have to pick up people from the airport on Thursday… and the centerpieces need to be done this Thursday night and given to the venue, so I literally have no time to do it myself, so that’s why I just let her, so I guess it’s better that way.
Post # 4
raziel1687: Instead of looking at what you didn’t do, focus on what you did do and the end goal! You will be married to the love of your life.
Also keep in mind that rich people have contracted out the tasks of their wedding forever.Think of it as practicing to be rich.
There is no law saying that a bride must do a million DIY’s.
Post # 5
raziel1687: To me it sounds like you’ve done plenty!
I didn’t do a lot of DIY for my wedding (because it was DW) and I was happy with the choice. It reduced the amount of stress and also reduced the overall focus on “stuff” which is not really what the wedding is about.
If you want to work on a few personal touches without spendign more money, what about spending time on your vows, choosing readings, your thank you speach to guests, or choosing meaningful music? Those are very personalizing touches that don’t cost a thing but do take quite a bit of effort.
Post # 6
You did about a million times more than I did! Then again, I had zero interest in DIY. I did our invitations online and addressed them myself, and I made our program (basically because I didn’t trust anyone else to do it correctly). But I think that was it!