Post # 1
I am new to this so bare with me as never done this before.
Ok so where do I start! We have been engaged for several years and have decided the time has come to take the plunge and get married.
Neither of us are very traditional so we wanted a wedding overseas…the dream is New Zealand! Anyway we explained that to my parents and they were not having it due to the distance and the long flights and the fear of the unknown. That was fine so we looked into the Med, well when we went to tell them we got silence, they one liners from my mother. We didnt know what to say so we left and made no contact for few weeks. I am very close to my Dad but he will not fly that far!
Since then we have gone round in circles; local wedding (which neither of us want) to overseas to local and on and on.
Well we went to talk to them again and explained neither of us want the local wedding and all the traditions and didnt want a wedding in the cold and rain! We are ok about them not coming to New Zealand but disappointed! So we compromised to somewhere down south (England) and they seemed ok with that…..anyways the next day mother started her one liners again about the local place and got us all confused.
My partner and I are at the end of our tether and now arguing constantly about it!
We have decided to go to New Zealand only the 2 of us!
Has anyone had a similar experience, any advice before we both go mad!?
Post # 3
First of all, I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this while trying to plan your wedding.
Second, I am a firm believer that you want what you want when it comes to YOUR special day. If you and your SO are fine with going to NZ and having a wedding without your parents, then go for it. I know a few people who have had destination weddings without family and don’t regret it at all.
There’s always the option of having a “reception” with the families once you get back.
Honestly it’s whatever makes y’all happy. Hope this helps, and keep us informed!!
Post # 4
@Travellingbee: I am having the worst drama with my parents too. They want to control everything! If I were you I would do exactly what you want. You can do your Destination Wedding and come back and have a reception locally if you would compromise on that.
Post # 5
Thanks for your advise really appreciate it.
There has been more drama’s! I have been getting silences from my mum for months now, then a random text, then nothing.
when I go visit they slag of my partner and it’s been getting silly.
it got to the point it’s impacting my whole life! So wrote them a letter about how they make me feel and how I am feeli. Well I got a call from my mum and the first thing she said was ‘so are you proud if yourself’ it went on and on. There was a lot of shouting and things said then we kinda got onto a hit of a level playing field. Anyway when I had finished my partner called trying to sort things out asking if there was anything he could do to get all of this resolved well she twisted everything he Sid and he made a remark, stop twisting everything. In fact you are the most twisted person Ibe met. He said I’m going to marry your daughter and on e she is my wife I won’t put up with any iof this.
the next day I spoke to my dad and he basically said he is a nasty controlling person and he is not welcome at their house anymore!
We had a celebration organised for family and frienda when we get back from nZ but he says you need to cancel it as they won’t be coming.
im at the end of my tether now and get married in 12 weeks.
Any advise please