(Closed) Wedding announcement confusion

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would just email people about the website and live streaming very informally. if you send out paper announcements, people may think you are angling for gifts from them without hosting them. People won’t know how to respond. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee

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thistle89:  So you want to send out an announcement that says – we’re going to get married and you aren’t invited, but check out all the fun stuff we did?

I would distribute the link to those closest to you via email with the date/time of your ceremony so they can watch if they want. I would send out wedding announcements afterwards with the link to your wedding website so they can see the photos etc. 

On that note – Is the wedding website just for photos? Wouldn’t Facebook or Instragram be a better avenue for sharing photos of your trip? I’m just concerned that you are registered somewhere and by sending out the wedding website with the registry information, you’ll come across as gift grabby. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Please don’t do this. I had a “friend” who sent me an invitation to watch the live stream of her wedding from Vegas and it’s really what earned her the quotes around “friend.”  It really changed our relationship. I wouldn’t have minded hearing after the fact that she’d eloped in Vegas and that I hadn’t been invited. I know not everyone gets invited to everything. But it seems really fake and attention-seeky to basically tell me I’m not good enough to wanted there in person, but it’s ok if I spend my time and pay attention to you from a distance.  

It’s really hurtful and I was talking to some other folks from the same social circle who feel the same way. No one tuned in to watch that (but we did start messaging each other laughing about it, in a really mean way, when it was time to log in).

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Simsbury 1820 House

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Horseradish:  Quite frankly it seems like you were the horrible friend to your friend. That’s very nasty and petty.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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thistle89:  I wouldn’t do a wedding website.

I agree with 

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Drizzle:  I would just email informally.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

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SomethingBlue1009:  sorry my emotions are not up to your standards. Gag.

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thistle89:  you’re basically telling people to watch passively and not actually participate. it is cold and disconnected. It is also a little bit showy, like I am supposed to stop what I’m doing and watch you get married. Not interact with you, not actually take part. I totally get the finances but I’d much rather you did a local cake-and-punch reception that I could actually GO to than do the webcast thing. It’s like it is more important to you to get married in Vegas than it is to actually have loved ones where you can see and talk to them. And there’s a bit of arrogance where you don’t even give people the option of being there in person but expect them to be watching online. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

Wow, these responses. I personally would be happy to tune in to someone’s live feed of their wedding, I don’t take these kinds of things personally. Seeing how some people will clearly be offended though, I think sending out the link to your closest family and friends, and then a formal announcement after with link to photo gallery or website would be best. 

We are eloping and sending out announcements after, which is also an invite to a small at home celebration and will include a website with more info and photos.

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