Post # 1
FH and I are planning a destination wedding (partially to avoid people we don’t want to invite, mostly because he loves the beach). I have a gigantic family who won’t necessarily be mad that they weren’t invited, but will definitely be mad if they aren’t properly told I’m married.
So is it okay to send out wedding announcements? And do we do them before or after the wedding? If we do them before, I’m partially afraid some people might try to invite themselves and just “conveniently” show up…
And is it okay to somehow include our registry information in them? Or should we just rely on word of mouth for that?
Post # 3
no registry. Only tell them if they ask someone. And DEFINATELY after the marriage.
It should say something like
” Its our pleasure to announce the marriage of X and Y. They were married in X location in an intimate ceremony.
Thats it. If you want a present, invite them to the ceremony and reception. If they want to get you something, they can ask where you are registered
Post # 4
It is a very nice thing to send a wedding announcement – it confirms to people that they are important to you, even if they weren’t invited to your ceremony. (It also lets everyone know your formal married name, which is nice – Are you taking his last name, keeping yours or hyphenating? Do you prefer the title “Mrs.” or “Ms.”?)
But they should absolutely be sent AFTER the wedding – it’s an announcement – you can only announce something after it happens.
As far as registry information – nope, there’s no way you can include it and pretend it’s polite. An announcement is just to tell people “hey, this happened,” if you include registry information it implies “I expect you to give me something, even though I didn’t want you there.” – Of course that’s not what you mean, but it’s the implications.
People who want to will find out where you are registered and send you gifts with out you including the information. That’s one of the nice things about loved ones – they want to celebrate happy events in our lives!