Post # 1
I am getting married Oct 6, 2012 and I have overwhelming social anxiety. I absolutely hate being the centre of attention and any type of public speaking and it makes me feel physically ill. I am so excited to marry the love of my life but terrified to walk down the aisle, and say my vows in front of everyone. When I think about it, I really do want all my loved ones to be there to support us, but would rather skip the whole part with being the centre of attention. Did anyone else suffer from major anxiety? Does anyone have any tips?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
I have anxiety, and a lot of the time it’s around social situations. When I think about meeting Mr. D’s friends who I’ve never met, at the wedding, I start to feel queasy. I hate people staring at me, I hate people listening to me talk, and all that fun stuff. We’re keeping our wedding quite small and that’s part of the reason why.
I don’t really have any tips because I’m not through it yet but my plan is to try to keep my focus on Mr. D and to remember that everyone is there to support us and love us (and most of them know I’m an anxious person).
Post # 4
One of my really good friends was extremely anxious about this too. In the end, she was okay, and she “got it over with” during the ceremony and then relaxed. You could do vows where you repeat after the officiant (instead of writing your own, or having longer ones where you have to talk for longer spans of time) because then you just need to repeat what he/she says. Also, when you’re walking down the aisle, only look at your groom! Do your best to ignore all the other people in the room. When my friend first started down the aisle, she looked terrified and like she was about to run away, but as soon as she saw her groom, her face relaxed and she felt better. Make sure you tell him to keep eye contact with you, and you can even make up a special signal for him to give you so you know it’s all okay and he loves you.
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice ladies! When I think of every other part of the day I am very excited (except for the first dance…where I am again centre of attention! :S )
If anyone else has any ideas that worked for them I would love to hear them!
Post # 6
I’m really anxious about walking down the aisle too. We are having a really small ceremony, partly because of this reason (and we just wanted it to be more intimate)…. but we will be having a big reception and I haven’t met hardly any of FI’s family so it could be interesting. As for tips, you could see your doctor and get an antianxiety med either just for the day or an everyday thing. I am just planning on focusing on Fiance as much as possible and trying not to hyperventilate 🙂 Our officiant is reading everything so all we have to say is “I do” … no repeating after him, no vows, nothing else. I love the idea of vows but I think they are just really private (but maybe I’m just weird) and they would DEFINITELY give me tons of anxiety! I know as soon as I’m down the aisle I will be all right and am just convincing myself that it will only take 30 seconds, and I can do anything for 30 seconds!