Post # 1
I went to a wedding this weekend, and it was all very nice. However, once the dancing started it immediately became like a private dance party for the bride and her (many) bridesmaids. They all pretty much took over the dance floor, and there wasn’t really room for anyone else, nor did anyone feel comfortable breaking into this great big girls party. The bride had nothing to do with any of her other guests once the dance began.In fact, most guests didn’t have a chance to speak to her at all unless they were at her table during the dinner, since the dancing started right afterward.
I’ve noticed the same thing at the last several weddings I’ve been to. It’s like once the dinner is over, the whole thing is a big drunken dance party for the bride and her girls, and everyone else can just go home as far as they’re concerned. At the last two weddings I’ve been to, the bride didn’t even make the rounds to thank they guests, she just went straight to partying with the girls.
Has anyone else noticed weddings happening like this, or is it just the ones I’m invited to? Am I just uptight and/or old? I find it kind of disrespectful for the bride to not even make an effort so schmooze with the parents and grandparents a little bit before she starts ignoring all non-bridesmaid guests.
Post # 3
I plan to avoid dancing as much as possible…we’re considering not even having a dance floor! I think that is so rude. Brides are often so rude. They think they get this special day and that means they can treat everyone like crap. UM…that’s not how it works. Also, it’s TWO people getting married!
Post # 4
I’ve never been to a wedding like that. Sounds weird… I agree that it’s odd/rude of the bride to not visit with guests. Of course she should dance & enjoy herself, too, but not at the expense of ignoring her guests.
Post # 5
So the dance floor was only large enough for the bridal party? That sounds like poor planning to me. Otherwise I have no problems with brides hanging on the dance floor, it makes the party more fun!
Post # 6
I danced a lot at my wedding but made sure I made my rounds and spent time with my guests.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
I think that, as the bride, the day just goes by so fast. I know that I spent two years planning for this one special day and I would really like to enjoy myself (and that means dancing! Woohoo!). I think it’s easy to get wrapped up in the moment and not even realize how quickly the time has gone by. (Although it’s very strange that the dance floor was not large enough for all the guests. 🙂
All that being said, Fiance and I will be going table to table during dinner to say hello and thank guests for coming.
Post # 8
I was guilty of this. I was caught up in the moment, as most brides are, and I love to dance with my friends, so it was a release after the stress of planning a wedding for months.
Since I knew I wanted to tear up the dance floor, I made sure to make my rounds to say thanks earlier on – but yes, some guests left without saying goodbye, because by that time I was full on stress relief and dancing it up.
I do feel bad that I didn’t stop dancing, but whats done is done. Just know that I am sure that these brides were very happy that you were there, its just an emotional time, and the first thing the couple wants to do is to blow off some steam in the form of dancing excersize! 🙂
Post # 9
…Why is everyone concerned with the bride ignoring her guests, and nobody’s mentioned the groom yet? Shouldn’t the groom be kind of high on the bride’s priority list?
Post # 10
My Darling Husband and I went to every single table to say hello, and then for the last hour, made sure we made it out onto the dance floor. Our dance floor was big enough to accommodate everyone and their guests though…I didn’t have any issues with anyone coming over to me to say goodbye or to chat. It’s all about making yourself approachable.
Post # 11
Yes, the dance floor wasn’t very big and it was completely dominated by the bride and maids. The groom and best man went around mingling with guests, thanking people, and occasionally jumping in for a dance while all the girls were fist pumping. I don’t think the bride even stopped to thank her own parents. I am related to the groom, and I know she didn’t speak once to anyone in my family (now her in-laws). It’s been the same at the last few weddings I’ve been to. The bride goes right to partying with her girls and everyone else who showed can just suck it.
Post # 12
@koveline, yes I found that weird as well…shouldn’t the bride and groom be hanging out together just a bit at their own wedding? I dunno.
Post # 13
We’re going to our cocktail hour so that we can greet guests, and while we hope we can see everyone during the cocktail hour, if we need to we’ll also go table to table in order to make sure that we greet each and every guest and thank them for coming.
But I’m going to be on the dance floor for most of the night and I’m not going to feel bad about it. We’re inviting all of our family and out-of-town guests to the rehearsal dinner and the morning-after brunch. There will be time for catching up and extended conversations. Our reception is going to be a PARTY and I’m not going to miss it on the sidelines.
Post # 14
I do think that it’s important to greet and thank your guests, but this would not bother me at all. If anyone deserves to drink and dance at a party they planned, it’s the bride.
This seems to contradict the “it’s your day! you what you want!” mentality that people push on brides, unless it only extends to making people wear what you want them to wear?
Post # 15
@peachacid: “brides are often very rude” –> speak for yourself.
Do you realize you’re one a BRIDAL FORUM?
Post # 16
@nmarie33: We weren’t glued at the hip at our wedding. I mean we danced together for a couple of songs and but it was touch and go. I mean I see my husband every day of my life, and there are so many people there I never get to see, it just made sense to split up for part of the time.