Post # 1
My mom has offered up her garden and home for my wedding next year.
My finace thinks its an terrible idea( based on his boss’s/friends reaction)
I think it’s great! A savings of over 2k.
Has anyone here had a at home wedding that turned out well or not. Please let me know, im begging.
Post # 3
@Seattlerains83: how many guests are you having? if it’s going to be small, then i think it could be ok.
Post # 4
It depends on the kind of wedding you want. My SIL wanted a super informal wedding, she actually described it as being like a graduation party and that was what she wanted. Tropical themed, they just had bright colored plastic tablecoths with pineapples as centerpieces and fans and leis everywhere, coolers with beer and pop, plastic cups and plates and silverware, etc. She was perfectly happy with it…well, until it started to rain, because she decided it would be a good idea to not rent a tent to save money.
If you are looking for a more formal outdoor wedding, I’d add up the costs to see if you’re actually saving – renting linens, china, glassware, silverware, etc., can add up pretty darn fast, as can finding a bartender if you’re planning an open bar. There is also the issue to consider of bathrooms (they had porta-potties, which worked but isn’t exactly ideal), event insurance, where people will park if it’s a larger wedding, etc.
Post # 5
@mypinkshoes: topping out at 70 max. Im more concerned about the traffic adn parking then anything else.
Post # 6
@Wonderstruck: True. But i figure in the long haul we can save the money to go towards food or the honeymoon.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Definitely run the numbers on rentals. When I ran the numbers for tables, chairs, tent, linens, china, glasses, etc… it was way cheaper to do our wedding in a private room at a local restaurant. Definitely don’t skimp on the tent rental for just in case it rains.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Seattlerains83: See if there is a public parking lot close enough to the house that people can park at and then have a car company transport guests to and from the wedding location.
Post # 9
@Seattlerains83: Right, I’m just saying that like @beachbride1216 said, it might NOT save you money in the long run, so add up your numbers (or maybe it will save you $, but you won’t know for sure till you price things out.) Existing venues can often bundle services and already have linens, tables, dishware, catering, bartender, etc. Having to purchase or rent these things on your own can end up being more expensive, it just depends on what things you want and what the costs are like in your area.
Post # 10
If it’s a small wedding (and by that I mean 20 people or less) then yes, it could work.
BUT if it is not less than 20, you will have problems.
Things to hire:
Knives and Forks
Covering for outside
Lighting for outside
If you want to save extra money then you can pick up and set up all of the equipment yourself. BUT that means that your groomsmen/family will have to spend the morning of the wedding putting out chairs, setting tables etc etc. Or you can hire someone to do the drop off and set up for you. Just like you can get a caterer who can bring all their own plants, tablecloths etc.
The problem with getting vendors who do those things for you is that it really adds up the cost. A lot of “at home” weddings end up costing more than it would be do go to a venue.
Post # 11
We are having a home wedding but will have less than 40 guest (hopefully) who are all family members. I don’t really care about the cost because I am not paying for it (his parents who want a wedding are) and don’t want a wedding at all. I am not even planning it. If I sound bitter it is because I was hoping to berate my fiance again about how much I don’t want a wedding but he is asleep.
Anyway, I am having no wedding party, I want the cliffnotes version of the ceremony, I refuse to be walked down the aisle, I am having the majority of the pictures done beforehand, and I am having no dancing so my situation might be a lot different from yours.
I will try to let you know how it goes.
And now I will go whisper, “Elope,” again into my fiance’s sleeping ear.
Post # 12
At 70 people, I think you definitely have to add up the “real” savings.
Shuttle to drive people from a real parking lot?
Would you have to rent a porta-potty? That’s a lot of people for a residential bathroom to handle.
What are the catering costs? Sometimes ones that have to be completely self sufficient due to no access to an industrial kitchen are quite pricy.
A tent rental here is about $1200, so unless you’re willing to take a big risk, that’s a major cost.
Post # 13
@Seattlerains83: 70 guests is not a small wedding. you will need a lot of space to make it comfortable for your guests and caterers.
as pp mentioned, there are many things to consider/rent (tables, chairs, tent, linens, plates, glassware, dancefloor, port-a-potty). with all of these rentals, you may be better off with a hall or banquet room at a hotel.
Post # 14
You need a large place for 70 people unless your parents home is like a mansion with four or more bathrooms
Post # 15
I thought about this (i wanted to get married on our farm, or in the bush) but a tent rental was actually as expensive as a venue (which included chairs, tables, ceremony site, kitchen, toilets, parking ect) . I did like the bush better than most venues, but when I factored in the extra work, the cost of all the things to hire, it just wasn’t worth it. Run the numbers, but i’ll bet it actually ends up being more expensive and it IS your FI’s wedding too, so if he is firmly against it then..
If your mum has a very large shed, or if you know someone with a marquee, you probably could do it and save money. Otherwise, it just doesn’t seem plausable.
Post # 16
We considered it, as my mother has a beautiful home on a lake. Lovely setting.
However, we ended up not doing it. The thought of having to figure out and coordinately everything was daunting. You need to rent everything. Everything! And you have to be ready for weather issues, bug issues, etc.
For us there were also a couple logistical issues that were killer – we didn’t have a really flat area to put a big tent, possible issues with needing additional power – may need a generator if home service is not sufficient for a big party. Also, parking. We didn’t have a good place for 100+ guests to park.
Also, my mother would probably want to do more gardening, keep the yard up better, clean up a few things, add some things, and I don’t want to put her to a lot of work, especially now since she is having a few health problems.
I still kind of wish we’d been able to do it. That’s what I had in my mind when I thought about getting married. I’m not entirely sure it would have saved us money, given all the renting we would have had to do, and deliveries and coordination.