Post # 1
I am getting married at a hotel. The gratituty/service charge of 22% was already added. Who do I tip and how much? The have a wedding ‘planner’ but all she does is helps the ceremony get started on time and makes sure we get moved to the ballroom on time as there is another wedding at the ceremony site after ours. She is not staying the entire time. She has already been pretty bad at responding to my emails but that’s besides the point. Do I tip her at the end of the night? Do I tip the bartenders and staff? If so, how much?
THanks for your help!
Post # 3
Um, isn’t that the tip already? They just impose it to make sure you tip? I wouldn’t give any extra, especially since guests will also leave their own tips for drinks.
Post # 4
We tipped the waitstaff about $20 a pop on top of the service charge.
ETA – to clarify, I meant $20 per server. Not that much, but they also aren’t getting $2.13 like most servers.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies! I just didn’t want to snub anyone!
Post # 6
Service charge is the tip. We added some extra cash for our event manager as she did a ton. But if you feel like you didn’t receive great service than extra tip is not necessary.
Post # 7
In Denise and Alan Fields’ book Bridal Bargains, I think I remember reading that the service fee is supposed to be the tip, but the service staff often doesn’t see any of that money (depends on the venue). Which totally sucks, but I can believe it.
I think I’m just going to flat-out ask the servers at our venue if the service charge goes to them or not. If they say “no,” I plan to publicize that fact in my review of the place. I will try to have some money available to give them as a tip if the service is really great. If it’s not … maybe I’ll suggest in my review that perhaps the fact that they don’t actually get the “service charge” money might be the reason why …?
I shouldn’t be so cynical, anticipating problems that haven’t happened yet and may not happen at all. But I also think it’s a big mandatory markup and I want to be damn sure it actually goes to the wait staff and doesn’t just become extra profit for the venue – since I already crunched some numbers related to their catering markup and was pretty annoyed about the results.
Post # 8
So according to a wedding planner friend (my best friends sister) I just spoke with she said that the hotel’s ‘planner’ should get about 100-150. And that the bartender and servers don’t get additional time.
I will probably give her something on the lower end unless she makes up for her lack of communication in the next several months. Although, her assistant has been quite wonderful so she will be getting what the other lady does not get.
Post # 9
Read your contract to find out if that’s a tip or just a service charge. My 22% service charge specifically says it does not include tips to the servers or bartenders. I will be tipping based on a job well done to the supervisor so the money can be distributed evenly among the staff.
This website gives a pretty good breakdown. In most cases, the service charge is not the tip.
Post # 10
I have a (silly) question…
What does that service fee cover if it doesn’t go towards tipping the staff? 20% – 22% is a lot of money!
Post # 11
not silly at all, i have no idea either!
so presumably, youre paying for food and drink. theyre getting wages, and yet the service charge isnt the tip? i dont understand what it could be for then
Post # 12
The hotel were having ours at is taking a $1,500 service charge and a $500 tip on top of our minimum so that $500 will be there tip from us.