(Closed) Wedding Attendee Gifting

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

psh. I’d be happy that you showed up more than anything else!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Only a really selfish person would judge you for spending what you can afford on a (thoughtful) wedding gift.

Post # 5
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sure they know how much you spent if they registered for it. It doesn’t really matter how much you spend, the thought and gesture were nice! But I have found that friends gave me for my wedding exactly what I gave them. 

Post # 6
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381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think its wrong at all- too many people nowadays think that a wedding is a business transaction and that their attendees should give a gift that is worth what they are spending per person.  I disagree with that completely and believe that you just being there is what is most important.

Post # 7
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Booknerd:  If retail was $30 and the gift came from a couple, I would find that quite cheap of you, regardless of wanting it or not. The $60 retail value is much more reasonable coming from a couple. She doesn’t have to know you used coupons.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

If it was my wedding I would just be happy that you even came to celebrate with me and I wouldn’t care about the gift.. I’m not getting married for presents.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I do that all the time – I aim for a $50 or $75 gift, but try to find 40% off coupons. The bride/groom doesnt need to know.

Also, when we opened wedding gifts, it was amazing to see what the difference was. I had an aunt and uncle give us $40 (which was reasonable since they have about 40 neices/nephews all around my age) and I had not very good friends of the family spend $1000. So really, it’s about acknowledging the marriage – not about how much you spend. 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think that if it is something they want/will enjoy you are fine.  And honestly if they are upset and think you cheaped out then maybe you don’t want to be friends with them or you just won’t be close family members.  But I think a gift is a gift and is ment to be apreciated no matter what it cost.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You got things off of the registery (big checkmark).

You’re a student.  You managed to get $60 retail.  I’d say that’s pretty darn good.  (well done on the savings!)

They will be (should be!!) happy that you were able to make it and spend the day with them, plus touched that despite being a student with your own wedding to save for, you gave them a gift.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think it’s rude at all.  You gift what you can afford.  If you can afford $100, awesome!  If all you can afford is a home-made card, then that’s perfectly great too.  People who judge someone and their gift based on the value of the gift then they are being rude.

If it makes you feel better though, the good majority of our gifts were between $50 and $100 per couple.

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