(Closed) Wedding attire for groom/groomsmen

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s his day too. You got to pick the dress you want, shouldn’t he be able to pick what he wants? Maybe you can ask him to be a little more formal for the ceremony and let him come up with what that would look like.

Post # 4
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5271 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I do think you should let him make the final decision on this one – you could suggest he wear a jacket for a few photos, but let him wear what he wants, afterall its his day too 🙂

Post # 7
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3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Honestly the guys in shirt/vest/pants will look just fine and to me still nicely dressed up – just not *formal*.  My hubby’s gm’s wore just that (minus the sneakers) and I loved how they looked!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MsBrewer:  Maybe a compromise?  See if he’s willing to wear a jacket and the gm’s in vest/shirts?  If not, just know that you aren’t really going to care on your wedding day.  🙂  All you’ll see is the man you love up there waiting to marry you!!  😀

 

ETA:  Maybe have him wear a black shirt and vest with bright tie!  Then he’ll still have a bit of that illusion of wearing a suit!

Post # 10
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5881 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

No need to feel guilty. There is enough guilt to go around when wedding planning!

I love the idea of wearing white shirt, black vest and bright tie–but I have a thing for grooms in bright ties! (He can take the tie off for the reception.) I definately would let him know that you have a vision of getting married to someone more formally dressed. Just keep in mind that might not look exactly like you thought it would.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

MsBrewer,

I don’t think you’re being over-controlling at all.

If there’s a chance that he’s not grasping exactly how you want the attire to match the formalness of the occassion, then I think it’s worth your effort to to try to convince him that the sneakers aren’t going to work. I would make the point that our wedding day is the most formal, public occassion we will have in your entire lives unless you run for President some day.  If no dress shoes for this day, then when? Just funerals? Or do you intend to wear high-tops to those too?

I’m not trying to be jerky, but often people don’t take the same attitudes toward how clothing is a reflection upon how they feel about the occassion. This is why I don’t totally agree with the opinion that the groom should get to wear whatever he wants because it’s his day too.  I’m more of the opinion that often, in this country anyway, men have lost sight of how attire reflects how you feel about the occassion and your guests/hosts.  If he feels the day is deserving of a fun, silly, casual, laid-back, ironic approach, then that’s how he feels.  If he feels that the ceremony is a serious occassion and he wants his clothes to match that attitude, then maybe you should continue to help him realize that the shoe choice for the ceremony should better match how you both jointly feel about it. And then he can cut loose for the reception and wear all sorts of fun stuff.

I’m not saying that a sneakered groom isn’t taking the ceremony seriously. I’m saying it just projects a more playful, less serious attitude than if he chose to wear his dress shoes.

 

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