(Closed) Wedding Attire……..Groomzilla or am I too lax about it?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We had a very casual, intimate wedding and it showed in our guests’ attire. I noticed some (nice) shorts and even flip flops (kids) but that was it, just a notice. It didn’t bother me whatsoever. It’s been a little over 4 months and I just realized that someone wore jeans when I was looking at pictures! We didn’t invite anyone who we absolutely didn’t want there, so I can’t imagine asking someone to leave because they’re not wearing the right clothes. 

Post # 17
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Busy bee

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FutureMrsHouy:  How well do you know your guests?  Just because a bunch of people were super casual at this wedding doesn’t mean they will be at yours.  I think most people tend to know who the people will be who might show up in something inappropriately casual – are any of these people on your invite list?

Also, if you think this is going to be something that will upset him at the wedding, definitely talk about how you will address it in advance.  Fiance can get pretty upset about people acting disrespectfully, and so we have an agreement that there will be no discussion/complaining about any of that on our wedding day.  We can talk about it later (if we even notice), but we don’t want to spend our wedding day talking about who RSVPd and didn’t show up, wore something ridiculous, etc.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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FutureMrsHouy:  You can definitely indicate dress code (as others have said) on the wedding website/invites etc… but I’m sure people will show up in whatever they consider wedding attire.

Where I live (New Mexico), I’ve learned after living here 7+ years that wedding attire for guys here is jeans, cowboy boots, button up shirts and bolo ties. I was kind of appalled the first time I went to a wedding here (where I’m from, we dress up no matter the date/time/place for weddings). But it’s totally normal here so I’ve learned to expect anything from the locals 🙂

I doubt either way that you all will remember what people wear unless it’s hilarious, and then it will become one of those funny wedding stories you joke about for years 🙂

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

There are way worse things that can happen to you on your wedding day other than someone showing up in jeans. I would tell your groom to calm down about it. If his family is anything like mine, flipping out over jeans in advance will just make it more likely someone will bring a pair to change into at the venue to tease him.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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FutureMrsHouy:  Apparently one of my guy friends wore pink jeans to my wedding. I only know this because another guest asked me later, “Who was that guy in the pink pants?” I was far too busy to notice what anyone was wearing on my wedding day. Except for DH’s sister. She wore a pretty skanky dress, but I wasn’t upset about it. I just thought she was making herself look like a fool. Not my problem.

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