(Closed) wedding band advice please!

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
71 posts
Worker bee

I have a similar problem where my engagement ring will lose it’s beauty with the wedding band so I decided to get whatever wedding band I want and just move my engagement ring to my other hand. I’ve seen this a lot.

Post # 4
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I was in the same situation as you! I have a very thin band on my e-ring and I realized after actually trying on bands that I liked thiner look. So Fiance and I ended up going with two super thin semi-eternity bands. I didn’t like how just one looked because of how thin my band is, I thought it just made it look off balance, and with the two thin bands it made it look more solid but still maintain the thin look, since the don’t line up perfect! Plus Fiance and I reasoned that if I ever want to just wear my bands I could just wear both of them and they still look good because there is two! Best of luck deciding I think it is really what you prefer!

Post # 5
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i’m going to wear a plain thin band with my e-ring but it will not sit flush. it’s only a little off and doesn’t bother me but if it did i would switch my e-ring to my right hand; i love it’s uniqueness and how delictate it looks and don’t want to overpower that. i also wear a very small ring size and honestly it looks like that insert band would overwhelm both your finger and your beautiful e-ring.

Post # 6
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh boy I’m in the same boat! I’m moving away from wanting a ring wrap (yes it does bump up the bling factor), but the traditionalist in me wants a “wedding band”; you know, the kind that I don’t take off most of the time. I’m not sure I’ll be happy with any kind of wrap. My ring is in a trellis setting, and I’m looking for something to compliment that, not detract from it.

Personally, I really like the thin milgrain single band with your ring. And I wouldn’t solder them together until you’re sure you want that. Can you have a band made to fit the ring (something without bling) and then maybe another band (with some bling) to wear alone? I’m starting to sound like “ring-zilla”, but I’m thinking I may do that if I can do it on my ring budget.


Post # 7
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I would DEFINITELY say go with option 2.  My wedding band doesn’t sit flush with my engagement ring either.  It really doesn’t bother me at all.  I though it would, but I never notice it.  The problem with option 1 is that you can never wear your wedding band alone.  There are times that I don’t want to wear my engagement ring (at the gym, or if I’m doing some sort of manual labor, or if I’m going to be in a not so nice neighborhood, or if I just don’t feel like it) and I like having the option to only wear my wedding band.  If you really like symmetry you could always just get two thin bands and wear one on either side.  Hubs and I are considering getting another band for me down the road. 

I’ll upload pics in a minute.

Post # 8
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Here is my engagement and wedding rings together.  The space is really hardly noticeable and not a problem for me.



Post # 9
31 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

I absolutely recommend going with option 2 – it’s so nice being able to wear just your wedding band when you want to, and I agree with Moose1209, if you’re looking for symmetry, try going with two bands! I have a very similar engagement ring and I’m so happy I didn’t get a wedding band that wraps around my e-ring.

ps- your engagement ring is beautiful!

Post # 10
1870 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I also would go with Option 2 mostly for the reasons PP said. I also think (personally) that your ring is gorgeous and has a nice balance between the “oompf” of a diamond while still being delicate and I think you’d sort of lose that delicacy if you had a wrap-around.

Also–remember that your wedding and e-rings are not going to be the only two rings you’ll receive in your married life (one hopes!)–there’s birthdays, and anniversaries, and babies, and new jobs…I’d focus on what you really want to represent your marriage, rather than what looks good fashion-wise. If, in the future, you still want the option of a wrap-around, then you can always purchase it later 🙂

(Of course, if you can’t tell, I’m a jewelry freak who doesn’t see a problem with having 2 wedding rings down the line!)

Post # 11
6 posts
  • Wedding: November 2010

I like #2 better but I don’t think you should have them soldered together. You may want to wear the band alone one day and it is nice to have the option. I also like the idea of wearing the band on the left hand and the ER on the right.

Post # 12
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have option #1 one for my setting, soldered together. I love that my ring has a unique look!

However, I was married in a Greek Orthodox ceremony and had to have a separate wedding band as well.  So I wear my e-ring/insert combo on my left and my milgrain band on my right.

Post # 13
30 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have the same problem as well — I have a beautiful heirloom ring from my Future Mother-In-Law, so I would never solder it to another ring.

I’ll probably end up wearing it on my other hand, because I really like the look of simple, usual wedding bands, and it does give me more options (same hand, other hand, leaving the e-ring off when its height might get in the way).

But I do wonder if there is a third option out there — like a slightly curvy, or wave-shaped band. Something like these:

(these are neat, because some of them “fit” against the husband’s band as well.)

http://www.diamondonnet.com/productImages/finished/zoom/RN2714B1_14KWG_DRD.jpg (This is nice, but I wish the wave went all the way around the ring, to make it more balanced.)

Anyone have similar suggestions or ring designers to recommend?

Post # 14
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My friend who recently got married last month has an ering similar to yours. She was also confused about what to do with the wedding band. In the end, she went with someone every similar to the first option (top and bottom) and it looks really great together. The band however does not allow you to wear your band seperately, so that’s something to take into consideration. If that’s a priority for you, go with the second one. If not, the first one I think will look fabulous.

Post # 15
5669 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would 100% go with option 1. I think the set would look absolutely beautiful together.

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