Post # 1
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Sugar bee
I am having the hardest time finding a wedding band that matches and fits my engagement ring.
I LOVE my engagement ring. I think it looks so pretty because it has a thinner band and antique style to it, it is unique beautiful and understated.
I have 2 wedding band options that I keep going back and forth on and I really am looking for some direction from fellow bees.
Option 1) wedding band is a solitare insert, this bumps the bling factor way up because it is a top and bottom band look so its no longer understated and it causes my ring to look much wider. (it looses its thin band look) on the positive side, the insert looks like it was made for my ring and the jewler said they can size it so that it sits slightly lower on the ring so I do not lose all of the side detail.
Option 2) is a thin milgrain band. It either not fit flush with the ring because the ring is boxy or will need to be perminately saudered to the engagement ring sittling slightly below the ring so I will lose some of the top diamonds. On the positive side it will keep its thiner band look and will remain understated.
I should add that I am a 4.25 size ring.
Sorry for all the pictures 
Post # 3
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Worker bee
I have a similar problem where my engagement ring will lose it’s beauty with the wedding band so I decided to get whatever wedding band I want and just move my engagement ring to my other hand. I’ve seen this a lot.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I was in the same situation as you! I have a very thin band on my e-ring and I realized after actually trying on bands that I liked thiner look. So Fiance and I ended up going with two super thin semi-eternity bands. I didn’t like how just one looked because of how thin my band is, I thought it just made it look off balance, and with the two thin bands it made it look more solid but still maintain the thin look, since the don’t line up perfect! Plus Fiance and I reasoned that if I ever want to just wear my bands I could just wear both of them and they still look good because there is two! Best of luck deciding I think it is really what you prefer!
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
i’m going to wear a plain thin band with my e-ring but it will not sit flush. it’s only a little off and doesn’t bother me but if it did i would switch my e-ring to my right hand; i love it’s uniqueness and how delictate it looks and don’t want to overpower that. i also wear a very small ring size and honestly it looks like that insert band would overwhelm both your finger and your beautiful e-ring.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Oh boy I’m in the same boat! I’m moving away from wanting a ring wrap (yes it does bump up the bling factor), but the traditionalist in me wants a “wedding band”; you know, the kind that I don’t take off most of the time. I’m not sure I’ll be happy with any kind of wrap. My ring is in a trellis setting, and I’m looking for something to compliment that, not detract from it.
Personally, I really like the thin milgrain single band with your ring. And I wouldn’t solder them together until you’re sure you want that. Can you have a band made to fit the ring (something without bling) and then maybe another band (with some bling) to wear alone? I’m starting to sound like “ring-zilla”, but I’m thinking I may do that if I can do it on my ring budget.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
I would DEFINITELY say go with option 2. My wedding band doesn’t sit flush with my engagement ring either. It really doesn’t bother me at all. I though it would, but I never notice it. The problem with option 1 is that you can never wear your wedding band alone. There are times that I don’t want to wear my engagement ring (at the gym, or if I’m doing some sort of manual labor, or if I’m going to be in a not so nice neighborhood, or if I just don’t feel like it) and I like having the option to only wear my wedding band. If you really like symmetry you could always just get two thin bands and wear one on either side. Hubs and I are considering getting another band for me down the road.
I’ll upload pics in a minute.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
Here is my engagement and wedding rings together. The space is really hardly noticeable and not a problem for me.
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Post # 9
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Newbee
I absolutely recommend going with option 2 – it’s so nice being able to wear just your wedding band when you want to, and I agree with Moose1209, if you’re looking for symmetry, try going with two bands! I have a very similar engagement ring and I’m so happy I didn’t get a wedding band that wraps around my e-ring.
ps- your engagement ring is beautiful!
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
I also would go with Option 2 mostly for the reasons PP said. I also think (personally) that your ring is gorgeous and has a nice balance between the “oompf” of a diamond while still being delicate and I think you’d sort of lose that delicacy if you had a wrap-around.
Also–remember that your wedding and e-rings are not going to be the only two rings you’ll receive in your married life (one hopes!)–there’s birthdays, and anniversaries, and babies, and new jobs…I’d focus on what you really want to represent your marriage, rather than what looks good fashion-wise. If, in the future, you still want the option of a wrap-around, then you can always purchase it later 🙂
(Of course, if you can’t tell, I’m a jewelry freak who doesn’t see a problem with having 2 wedding rings down the line!)
Post # 11
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Newbee
I like #2 better but I don’t think you should have them soldered together. You may want to wear the band alone one day and it is nice to have the option. I also like the idea of wearing the band on the left hand and the ER on the right.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
I have option #1 one for my setting, soldered together. I love that my ring has a unique look!
However, I was married in a Greek Orthodox ceremony and had to have a separate wedding band as well. So I wear my e-ring/insert combo on my left and my milgrain band on my right.
Post # 13
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Newbee
I have the same problem as well — I have a beautiful heirloom ring from my Future Mother-In-Law, so I would never solder it to another ring.
I’ll probably end up wearing it on my other hand, because I really like the look of simple, usual wedding bands, and it does give me more options (same hand, other hand, leaving the e-ring off when its height might get in the way).
But I do wonder if there is a third option out there — like a slightly curvy, or wave-shaped band. Something like these:
http://www.surprisegold.com/unique-wedding-bands.htm
(these are neat, because some of them “fit” against the husband’s band as well.)
http://www.diamondonnet.com/productImages/finished/zoom/RN2714B1_14KWG_DRD.jpg (This is nice, but I wish the wave went all the way around the ring, to make it more balanced.)
Anyone have similar suggestions or ring designers to recommend?
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
My friend who recently got married last month has an ering similar to yours. She was also confused about what to do with the wedding band. In the end, she went with someone every similar to the first option (top and bottom) and it looks really great together. The band however does not allow you to wear your band seperately, so that’s something to take into consideration. If that’s a priority for you, go with the second one. If not, the first one I think will look fabulous.
Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
I would 100% go with option 1. I think the set would look absolutely beautiful together.
