(Closed) wedding band drama – help!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’d be furious.  You agreed to order a ring and was told you’d have plenty of time for it.  If you agreed to purchase the stock ring it would be a different story.  Whether it not it does anything to the rings structure depends on how many sizes it has changed.  Since he took out stones it seems like hes done a lot to the ring.  I highly doubt he constructed a whole new ring for it also, especially since he said that after you asked more questions.  I would not accept this ring.  Regardless of all the shadyness, its not what you paid for anyway.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Things happen in jewlery stores ( I know I work in one) the fact that he thought you would get your band before you needed it means that the ordering process was on time. The ring you ordered my have been discontinued and harder to get or even backordered. NO jewler is going to do more work them they have to it is VERY time consuming to do what he has done so they probably did it for good reason.

IMO i’d be happy they took the time to do tthe work and didnt just tell you your SOL when the other ring didnt make it in on time.

Resizing the ring dosent hurt the structral integrity of the ring if done correctly which it sounds like he has done. I’d be Happy you will actually have a wedding band and he is not making you choose a new band.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I had my half eternity band sized from a 7 down to a 3.5 typically this is not recomended because you stretch the settings and prongs can’t reach the stone properly .. I specified to retip all the prongs which will make the prongs longer and stronger to hold the stones .. Mine came out amazing and I feel like the prongs are even safer than the stock ring before it was altered … Stock rings have more issues because they are casted in the size and there in a lot that can go ring making the metal brittle and porous but when you solder and add more metal it becomes stronger would be happy that I got my ring in time instead of no ring at all. Also at least he told you the dilemma and did not pass it off for what it wasn’t . I’m also assuming that because he’s a jeweler and knew what he was getting into that he properly tightens all your stones .. Just double check them all with tweezers and a magnifine glass if you have one and of there is a stone loose have him retip and reform the prong so more metal is secure over the stone. Also depending on the size especially half sizes just because you order them for example a  size 6.5 directly from the company they sometimes have Jewelers size a 7 down before it is sent out unless your dealing with alternative metals like tungsten and and ceramic

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Well if the store has the big microscope that will be easier for someone that doesn’t use a loop often because it’s easier to hold everything for inspecting but I hold the loop and piece of jewelry in one hand and then tweezers and one finger on the loop on the other hand  the. You lightly poke at each stone to see if it wiggles.. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

That’s the first thing I would have to do with any repaire order we got because even if you were repairing something that doesnt risk the stones they can still become loose for many reasons…. Once the sizing is done if there is a loose prong that should be an easy fix it’s just a matter of one tool called a bead tool that reshapes the tip and compressing the metal down to hold the stone better  … But all the talk about prongs is because I’m gonna assume its a shared prong setting and not a channel but you still check it the same just a little poke one either side of each stone if it doesn’t move your good if there’s any movement then it needs a tighten that’s wyou many stores make you get it inspected every 6 months 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Well most stores use lower quality stones especially when there smaller than 3 mm and a jeweler is not gonna switch out a diamond that is that small because there’s no money to be made .. As long as all the diamonds withing the band are a close color match ( sometimes a stone can lay slightly crooked and cast a gray shadow and may appear slightly darker but especially after a drastick size making sure everything is tight and something may shift but it’s not something people will notice usually just you cuz i kno I stare !!! And for hours so you notice ! But what is important is to make sure all the stones match each other you don’t want a dull yellow one screaming at you next to a bunch of white ones .. Also make sure they match your e-ring if you plan on wearing them together .. I recently posted on the thread about princess cut solitaires and what band to go with it .. And you can see my set the top picture is the half eternity that went from a size 7 to 3.5 and it next to my solitaire I also posted my right hand ring that is technically also a band there both are minimum of I2 in quality but the bottom band has more like SI2 but they are similar in color so they both look good … But everyone over inspect there rings you can’t help it I worked in a jewelry store and inspected my ring under every magnification in the store and even now I’m like ….that wasn’t there before :/ but in reality it was I was just over excited and now taking time just to casually look its as if imperfections appear 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

@BusyB123:  if you are not comfortable with it, regardless of their no return/exchange policy, i would argue with him.  this is not what you agreed to pay for.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Most likely the smallest stock size was going to be a 5 and it would still need to be sized either the main office sized it or the jeweler that store uses if it’s not in house it would still get sized an you would never know it .. Granted it wouldnt be that large of a change it’s still technically sized

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I would not be comfortable with that.  I feel like it would be buying the sample shoe on display that a million people have tried on (gross).

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

that would upset me a lot too. not because it is the stock ring but because it is not what i ordered and was promised.

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