(Closed) Wedding Band on the Forefinger

posted 6 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We did go with a traditional plain gold band, but I only had it on my forefinger for the ceremony. I placed it on my ring finger immediately after the ceremony when we were in yuchid.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m just borrowing one and after the ceremony in yichud I will put on my diamond band. I know that isn’t the traditional route but I want a little bit of bling!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We bought gold bands, but my E ring has a matching band that I love, so I will be changing over to my bling as well. Fiance just wants a plain gold band for his ring as he is quite traditional. Our rabbi made a very big deal that in the ceremony we must give the other a ring we purchaced. No borrowing allowed!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

In the ceremony, the groom places the ring on the bride’s forefinger, and then she is supposed to move it to her ring finger, as a sign that she accepts his promise and is consciously making the decision to enter into the marriage on her own – you don’t leave the ring there.  But yes, we got plain bands and even though I used my great-grandmother’s ring for the ceremony, I wear a plain wedding band with my engagement ring to carry on the tradition.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@get1800:  My understanding is that the wedding band is placed on the forefinger of the right hand during the ceremony because that is the finger/hand most visible to the witnesses/community present at the ceremony.

 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It is because the forefinger is connected to the heart – and “technically” you’re not supposed to move it.  I plan on moving mine for obvious reasons 😉

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We both had plain gold bands, and mine was put onto my right forefinger.  (NotFroofy is not Jewish, and hers was put onto her left ring finger.)  I moved mine to my left ring finger after the ceremony.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I knew I wanted a matching band for my pave sided engagement ring, and originally bought a plain band solely for the ceremony, and it’s purpose would end with the ceremony. I ended up really liking the sentiment of the plain band being the actual ceremony band, so I have continued to wear it on my right forefinger in addition to my matching set on my left ring finger. Definitely glad I decided to keep wearing the ceremony ring!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@laurenwalk:  That’s a lovely idea!! As get1800 said, it’s a great way to remember your faith. 🙂

Post # 14
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m using a plan gold band under the chuppah and in the yichud room I’m going to put on my diamond band. I’m planning on wearing the plain band on the right ring finger during the reception to remember the cermony we just had

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Yes, the band must be something the groom owns.

 

We bought two bands. A plain one he will put on my right first finger and then in the yichud room, I’ll move it to my ring finger and add a diamond band.

 

Also, my Fiance will have a wedding ring. I will give that in the Yichud room because giving both rings under the chuppah could nullify the wedding (an exchange rather than an aquisition)

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