Post # 1
I’m not married yet but from the beginning of the ring browsing/shopping/buying process I’ve been saying that once I am I’m more likely to wear just my wedding band most days. EVERY jeweler or married person I know tells me that’s not true and that everyone says that but they end up wearing them together more often than not. So are there any married bees who find that they wear their wedding band alone at all if not more often than their entire set?
just from a personal standpoint: i’ve always put more thought into what i wanted my wedding band to be/look like than the e-ring. my backwards logic is that the ering represents a promise or intention and once i’m married that promise/intent has been fulfilled so …. yeah lol. i’ve never been a huge jewelry girl but since getting engaged and looking at rings i love the idea of anniversary stacks and basically just being able to switch things up a bit… with my wedding band being the anchor not the ering. i actually sometimes think it’s odd when i hear “well you dont want your band to outshine your ering” …like wait what? lol anywhoo just my personal little opinion
Post # 2
devonlee: For many years of our marriage, I wore only a wedding band. I didn’t wear my ERing at all after we got married. And only started wearing it again sometimes pretty recently (like less than 6 months ago).
I have a platinum set that is an ERing-style anniversary ring + a band. Now, I mostly wear this set, and I generally wear the band with the anniversary ring. But this has only been in the last year or two. When I am exercising … and sometimes, also, when I am sleeping … I still wear just a band.
Post # 3
longtimemrs: I think this will be as well. When I first got engaged I forgot my ring alllll the time. I’d go days or sometimes whole weekends without wearing it just because i wasn’t used to wearing something there so i ‘felt’ it you know? Now that I wear it pretty much every day (still take it off soon after i get home every night) i’m used to having something on that finger and i feel odd when it’s bare and will go to kind of play with it and then kick myself if i’ve forgotten it but i think i’ll happy when it’s something as low profile as my band will be.
save the e-ring (and anniversary rings and gifts i’ll be subtly asking for lol) for special occasions or something
Post # 4
To be honest, I never really wanted an e-ring, I just wanted the wedding band. But my Fiance is old fashioned and made me get an e-ring. Lol. I will definitely wear it everyday because it’s special to him, and extremely pretty! Plus the band I chose I small-ish so I feel like it’d get lost on my hand by itself.
Also, all my married friends still wear both every day. I will do the same 🙂
Post # 5
i’m wearing my wedding band only right now because i’m pregnant and my fingers are swollen, haha. that being said, my wedding band has diamonds around it and i often wear it by itself anyway. sometimes it seems like too much to wear jewelry out and about – like to the grocery sture and whatnot, but it feels weird to wear nothing. i think it’s a happy medium.
Post # 6
I plan on wearing both but really splurged/fell in love with my band for the same reasons you are stating. My Engagement Ring has “grown” on me (like many others, I asked Fiance for a simple band for my e-ring or none at all is just fine), likely because it is simple. I have to admit that most e-rings I see are very intricate and detailed, which kind of turned me off to e-rings. Not that they aren’t just beautiful (they are), but it’s not a piece I would wear every day. Luckily Fiance surprised me with something classic and simple that will stand my test of time that I can see myself (and do see myself) wearing every day.
With that being said, don’t let anyone give you an opinion on what it should be! If you aren’t a big jewelry person, it is probably a good idea to forgo an e-ring altogether, or maybe get a band that you can see yourself stacking with a beautiful wedding band, or wear the e-ring as an RHR once you say your vows.
My Future Mother-In-Law hasn’t worn her e-ring in 20 years (even after Future Father-In-Law upgraded her, his mistake!). My nana never wore hers (just her plain gold band), I have a close girlfriend who ONLY wears her band and she got married last year (wears e-ring on snazzy occasions), several friends who just don’t wear rings, and my Maid/Matron of Honor actually said if her boyfriend proposes to her, tell him just to get her a diamond band.
You’re not as alone as a lot of people make you think you are. EVeryone has their opinion of “what is right”. They aren’t you at the end of the day.
Post # 7
doglover89: my ering actually is very simple, round solitaire on a plain white gold band. i was very particular about the setting (cathedral) and the width (i wanted it to be thin and dainty) but i mostly wanted it to be plain classic timeless….& i STILL dont wear it every day LOL, well i do now but again it has more to do with having something on my hand rather than this particular ring.
I think like you said meggyo: when i wear my ring now to do normal errand-y type things it still feels like a bit much to me. my wedding band is a seven stone rose gold beauty so it will still have plenty of sparkle but in a more low key kind of way i think.
and doglover89: your post just reminded me that my own mother never wore her ering either at least not that i can remember until she was dressing up to go out and she had a plain marquise solitaire…. so that’s probably where this is coming from unconciously lol
Post # 8
ABL12490: i wanted an e-ring but i didn’t know that once i got it i’d feel this way until i had it. i’m the first to say “turn around i forgot my ring” if we’re heading out somewhere but the key is that I have to say that because at some point…more often than not… i have taken it off lol. i love my ring, i mean i should since i picked it out lol, but i just can’t wait for that band. and i know that one will mean more to my fiance than anything because we’ll have that one blessed and he’ll expect me to never take it off….like ever lol
Post # 9
There aren’t engagement rings in my parents’ culture, so my mom always just wore a wedding band. I probably would have been just fine with the same, but now I have a classic wedding set that I wear. In the future, I might wear just the band though. We’ll see.
Post # 10
So far I wear only my band to work. Engagement Ring I love but it’s a bit flashy for my field.
Post # 11
I always said back before getting engaged that I wanted a wedding band that would work well on it’s own should I ever want to wear it alone….meaning no curved bands. I never wear my band alone. When we first got married I wore them together all the time and really never took them off at all. Over the past year I’ve gotten into the habit of rarely wearing them around the house. I do work out and ride horses and round I was just not wearing either of them. I recently ordered a Qalo ring and I wear that almost all the time unles we’re going out somewhere.
Post # 12
I feel ya! I almost never wear my wedding set anymore. Maybe if we’re going out, but that’s about it. I finally found a stand alone band that I LOVE so I wear that about 90% of the time.