Post # 1
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Helper bee
Has anyone ever heard or seen anyone wear their wedding band on top of their engagement ring? I realized, belatedly, that my e-ring fits the slender part of my finger toward the bottom, but squeezes the skin around the middle of my finger when the wedding band is on. If I wear the band on top, though…the ring fits perfectly. I have a little less than a year before I actually have to wear the wedding band, but I just want to see what everyone else thinks.
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
I’ve seen people wear it both ways. I understand that the tradition is that the band goes on before the ering- but it’s not a big deal to reverse it if it’s more comfortable.
Also- just keep in mind- it took me a while to get used to wearing both rings. At first it felt a little too thick and was a little uncomfortable. Now I’m totally used to it.
Post # 4
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Wannabee
there’s some debate over which way is correct, but i believe it’s up to you.
the older tradition is to wear the wedding band under the engagement ring, the theory is that the wedding band (the symbol of the actual marriage, not just intent) is now closer to the heart.
i see more people wearing the wedding band on top these days, the theory behind it is that not only was the engagement ring there first but that way you can wear it on your wedding day and seal the marriage with the wedding band.
not sure if it helps but i definitely see it worn both ways.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
i plan to wear my wedding band on top of my engagement ring too!
Post # 6
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Newbee
Yes! It’s actually an older method. Wearing your wedding band and e-ring is something my grandmother does. I’m not planning on doing that because I just like my e-ring by itseld and I’m going to wear the band on my other hand.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
My mom always put her wedding band on top — so neat to see maggieP says it the older way to do it. Do whatever looks and feels best!
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
I would say to do what ever is most comfortable to you. The saying is that the ring that means the most to you should be closest to your heart. If you do not like the idea of wearing the ering first have you looked into have it sized up a 1/8 of an inch or so?
Post # 9
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Worker bee
i am SO glad you wrote about this. I was initially planning to wear my e-ring closer and the band on the outside but i got all these weird looks from people and they told me that it should be the other way around. my reasoning for reversing it was just that the e-ring is a little loose and i wanted the band to kind of hold it in place (if i decide not to re-size it) good to know that i’m not crazy!
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
I love the two interpretations:
- Wear the wedding ring closer because your marriage is closer to your heart
- Wear the e-ring closer and the wedding band seals in his promise to you and seals the marriage
I don’t think you can go wrong. Wear your rings however you want. You also might want to switch around depending on the season…in the summer it will be hotter and your fingers will swell, which will make your rings fit differently.
