(Closed) Wedding band rather than engagement ring first

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery

Annalee3970:  I don’t think that is odd in any way. There is no rule stating any specific ring is needed for an engagement or a wedding!  If it works for you two, that’s all that matters. Good luck to you! Beautiful ring choices BTW!

Post # 3
932 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I have friends who did this! When they got engaged they were poor college students and she got a modest three stone ring with smaller diamonds. after a 5 year or so engagement, he was pulling in six figures, and instead of the plain wedding band shed picked out, he surprised her at the ceremony with a large, beautiful engagement ring. It was a total surprise and very sweet. 

Post # 4
195 posts
Blushing bee

I think that’s a great idea! I bet there a lot of people out there who wish they would have thought of that! I am getting a plain white gold wedding band to wear for the remainder of my emgagemnt while FI gets my engagement ring and band soldered together and ready to go. Yes, it’s a different situation but from the perspective others’ it’s not really. people will see me wearing a ‘wedding band’ when it’s technically a stand in for my engagement ri ng.

Post # 5
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

This is exactly what my SO and I are going to do. I have a band design I have had my heart set on for years. This will be my engagement ring. Then a few years from now we will get a ‘wedding band’. It took a little convincing for him to accept that this is the order I want them in. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 1 month ago by  ohsparkly.
Post # 6
2925 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

One of my best friends wears 2 matching half eternity bands.  One is her engagement ring and one is her wedding band.  $50 says if you ask her which is which she wouldn’t be able to tell you.

I think that’s a great idea, honestly.  

Post # 7
17 posts
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think it’s totally fine !!! My FI just proposed a week ago with a weddimy band we had picked out & we’ll be using that for a while instead of the engagement ring–so it’s a great idea in order to save money. The important part is what the ring represents — not how flashy it is or what anyone else thinks. 🙂 good luck! 

Post # 8
5179 posts
Bee Keeper

Sweetie, you do what’s best for you.  I think that sounds perfectly fine!  My husband and I aren’t rolling in the riches, and got a simple and relatively small (not to me) carat sized ring and love it.  I don’t plan on upgrading ever because for me, the ring represents our love and our marriage, I dont’ need a big flashy ring for that but I did want a ring and a band.  See?  Just a simple ring and band and I love it.  We did what worked for us.

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