Post # 1
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Worker bee
Bees,
Soon-to-be groom here, and I have a bit of a dilemma. My fiancee is not much of an engagement ring person, and I proposed to her with an antique diamond ring in a platinum setting that belonged to my great grandmother. The ring is lovely, and she loves the history that goes along with the ring – an appraiser told her the diamond was likely cut sometime in the 1700s. However, she’s not in love with it, and she really doesn’t want to wear an engagement ring after we get married. We bought simple yellow gold wedding bands a while back, but I want to do something better for her.
She loves yellow diamonds, and we saw this ring (below) when we were shopping. It’s yellow gold with yellow diamonds, 1.89 carat total weight. The retail price was outrageous, but the jeweler is a family friend and is willing to sell it for 50% off.
So, two questions:
1. Do you like it??
2. Would it be strange for her to walk down the aisle with no ring at all, then only wear this after we get married?
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
It looks beautiful!
Not strange at all to not have a ring before the wedding. Some opt out of engagement rings altogether, and even those with them often remove them or switch them to right hand for wedding ceremony. And MANY women I know wear only a band, eternity ring, anniversary ring on left hand after marriage, or some other single ring to symbolize their marriage after some time.
There really are no rules, your Fiance is free to do wear what is comfortable for her.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
I think it would be super sweet to surprise her with this ring. I am probably going to wear my engagement ring on my right hand for the ceremony, as PP mentioned. Love the ring by the way!
Post # 4
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Honey bee
weddingsarehard : gorgeous! Why not surprise her on your wedding day at the ring exchange and put both the gold band and the diamond ring on her finger. You are one amazing groom! Lucky girl!
Post # 5
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Helper bee
Beautiful! I don’t think it would be strange at all 🙂
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Personally, I prefer the look of a band on its own. So this would be right up my alley! My plan is to wear my engagement ring as a right hand ring and wear the wedding ring on its own.
Post # 7
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Newbee
cmsgirl : I agree!! If you are certain she loves this band (but may not anticipate something so grand based on the cost or whatnot) what a cool surprise on your wedding day!!! Its simple simply gorgeous. I know many women (mist likely myself included) who will prefer to wear their wedding band solo on a day to day basis 🙂 Very thoughtful you are 🙂 way to go!