Post # 1
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Newbee
I need some input, though it’s too late to do anything about it now. I tried on tons of wedding bands/enhancers to go with my engagement ring and didn’t like any of them (either too plain so too much contrast or there was the gap issue) until I tried on this one which I was so excited and happy about (see pic). I would prefer a traditional band, but the gap was driving me crazy. I figure I can get a traditional band and add it later if I want (as an anniversary gift, or as a gift when our first child is born).
My fiance loved it too so we ordered it and it is currently being sized. In my excitement, I emailed the pic to my bridesmaids and mother, which was a mistake I guess. My bridesmaids of course are all super supportive, but my mom didn’t respond at all, and then told me on the phone she “feels strongly” that it is “too busy”. And that I should go shop with her for one when I am visiting at Christmas. I guess I am feeling a few things here. First, why would I shop with my MOM rather than my FIANCE for a wedding band? She is helping with a LOT of the wedding stuff, but that’s because she is paying for it and has good decorating taste. In my opinion the band is up to me and my fiance, and if we love it, we should be supported. I’m the one who has to wear it, and my fiance is the one paying for it. Second, I am having second thoughts now about it which sucks because I loved it so much on my finger and looking at the pics I still really like it. But now I keep hearing my mom’s voice telling me that it’s “too busy.”
I know it’s too late to do anything about it (except just buy another band), but I’d love to get you all’s opinion on if you think this combo is too much.
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Post # 3
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Newbee
@bubblebride:
Also, keep in mind that my engagement ring is white gold and will be re-rhodium plated before the wedding so they will be more comparable in sparkle/color then, then they are now 🙂
Post # 4
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Busy bee
I guess I’m not helping matters by saying that your combination is unique and gorgeous 🙂
So….Tell mom the truth? that you made up your mind but “thanks very much, fiance and I have chosen”
She still has tons of stuff to help you with !
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
I think they look great together. And in the end all that matters is you like it.
Although our wedding bands look very, very similar so maybe I’m a bit biased. 
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
In My Humble Opinion, it is beautiful! I would not change a thing about your set. I think it is perfect.
Post # 7
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Newbee
@ItalianLady:
Aw thanks you made me smile 🙂 Just what I needed!!!
I did tell her that we have made up our minds and it is ordered and I just got a “oh well, I felt like I needed to tell you because I feel strongly about it.” It just hurt my feelings and dampened my excitement I guess.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
I think they are beautiful! I love the sparkle and everything, it’s fabulous. You made a wonderful choice. 🙂
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
It is “busy” but not any less beautiful for it. I’d just tell her you have different tastes and agree to disagree 😀
Post # 10
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Worker bee
Oh, I am sorry your mom made you feel this way! **HUGS**
IMO, I think its beautiful and stunning! I looked at the pictures first and absolutely loved it, then when I read what you wrote I had to do a double take at the pics to see if I had missed something that your mom apparently had seen. Needless to say, I didn’t find anything lol!
Maybe it is just an issue of personal taste, which is what my mom and myself are going thru – she is more traditional – she has a plain band and solitaire while I have an e-ring with diamonds around the band and wedding band to match. I think with your particular e-ring a simpler band would look strange as opposed to the ornate styling of the e-ring. (notice I said ornate, not busy – there IS a difference! lol)
I agree with you that if you and Darling Husband like the band, you like the way it looks on your finger, then stay with tht. Don’t 2nd guess yourself because of her comment. Chalk it up to different tastes, different ages, etc and let it roll of your back! It is BEAUTIFUL!
Post # 11
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Newbee
OMG you all are great. I have never posted here before, just come to get ideas from other posters 🙂 I am really glad I did because you all are really helping me feel better and more confident in my decision. Why is it that at 32 years old, my mom’s opinion still counts? Grrr… 😉
Post # 12
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Newbee
coming from someone who has had her own issues with choosing a wedding band and getting buyer’s remorse…if you love it on your finger and in pics, then its the band for you. not that it even matters but in my opinion the set is stunning! its got this pretty antique look to it…love it!
Post # 13
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Busy bee
I love the combo. Absolutely beautiful. If it makes you feel any better, I called my mom and told her I found the perfect Out of Town bags for the hotel. They are regular gift bags, but very pretty. Found them at the dollar store, and I was like score! So I bought them. She freaked out that she didn’t see them before i bought them.
Now, my mother is normally a very sane and normal woman. And she was SO MAD that I had made this decision without her. Weddings do weird things to moms. I think they just want to be a part of everything. Keep your band, it’s perfect.
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