Post # 1
So this kinda mystifies me. Everyone seems to be getting these superfancy wedding bands and I don’t think I had ever seen a wedding band with diamonds before I started looking at wedding websites. What I had previously perceived as normal was a plain, unornamented yellow gold band. I thought my parents were fancy with their second set of wedding bands. They were braid puzzle rings with beautiful workmanship.
So I am wondering… Is this regional? Is it something else that the Wedding Industrial Complex has conviced us that we *need*? From my perspective a plain band is much more practical. You never have to take it off. You don’t have to worry about losing stones or damaging intricate carving. You just wear it and its very simplicity is a symbol of the marriage bond.
Post # 3
I completely understand what you are saying and with that thought it would make sense that wedding bands were plain. Bu I do think it is a regional thing. I honestly don’t know any females with a plain wedding band. Most men have plain bands but the woman that I know personally have some sort of design or diamonds.
Post # 4
you sound slightly judgemental. i think selecting a wedding band is a highly personal choice of taste and budget. i have seen some beautiful plain bands and lovely, more intricate bands. why not let the couple decide what works best for their circumstances?
Post # 5
I think it is more a function of time vs. region. In the 70s and 80s and before, plain bands were the norm. So yea… that is what most women in my family have. But starting in the 90s diamond bands became more popular and now they are the norm (kind of like how yellow gold used to be the norm, now white gold is the norm). I don’t know anyone who has gotten married in the last 15 years who has a plain band.
Post # 6
I had such a hard time finding my wedding band because everything in all of the stores had diamonds on it, and because my ering band has rope detailing on it, I wanted a simple band. I think this style is just the trend that is out now. When I would go into a store and tell them I was looking for a wedding band without diamonds, they would usually show me the one or 2 they had. I ended up ordering my band online– simple 2mm band with milgrain edges.
Post # 6
My wedding band, which we have already bought, has diamonds down the band to match the diamonds down the band of my engagement ring. After we’re married and I’m wearing them together, they’ll match. If my e-ring band were just white gold, my band might be just white gold too. Hard to say!
Post # 7
it feels to me like a status thing – certain backgrounds seem to lean towards the massive sparkly wedding bands which serve mostly to show off ginormous rocks.
But there are the simpler channelset rings or rings with only one or two stones – I know people with the big sparkly rings and then those with the plain bands, and I fall somewhere in between.
But my feeling is that if it’s jewelry you’re going to wear everyday, you better like it a lot, whatever it looks like
Post # 8
To each their own right? You could apply the same logic to just about everything related to weddings (dresses, food, flowers, ceremonies, etc).
I personally didn’t want a plain gold band, it’s just not my style.
Post # 9
for me, it’s a religious thing. i’m jewish so my band has to be uncut. sometimes i’m jealous of fancier bands because mine is plain, but i love what mine symbolizes.
Post # 10
My wedding band is super fancy… and it is perfect for me…
BUT my best friend got married last weekend and she got a plain white gold band as her wedding band. It was perfect for her! She is a sociologist and does a lot of work in Africa/Asia/South America and wearing a diamond wedding band is not an option.
So to each their own.
Post # 11
For me its a religious tradition. FH and I are Jewish and it is our tradition that wedding bands are unbroken and have no blemishes. They are of minimal value with no edges or corners.
Post # 12
I agree with CorgiTales. 20-30 years ago, many women had some sort of plain engagement ring too. Simple princess cut or round solitaire. Now we have side stones, WAY more variety in stone shape, etc. Tastes change, styles change, and I think wedding bands reflect that as well.
I think some rings look great with a plain band. Just like some look better with a band with some bling. It’s all a matter of taste.
Post # 13
Just a note: Though it is traditional for Jewish bands to be un-cut, I am jewish, and I chose an ornate and detailed openwork band because that is the style I like.
At our ceremony, I am using my grandmother’s band which is a complete circle with no cut-outs (to symbolize our unending love for eachother), but for my everyday band, I wanted something that fit my personality and style.
So I don’t think it’s really regional or cultural. It’s just whatever the person pictures wearing to remind them of their Darling Husband everyday 🙂
Post # 14
My parents have very simple, yellow gold bands as well, and I’m not exactly observant so I didn’t realize diamond bands even existed until I started looking at wedding stuff.
Now I notice them and realize most of my friends and the married women I know have them.
They’re not for me – I want something that will be in the same style and material as my husband’s when we are married (I also plan to wear it alone, without my engagement ring, most of the time). But, man, some of the sets I have seen are sparkly and gorgeous.
Post # 15
Personally, I don’t have an engagement ring and my wedding band is a 3mm platinum band. Just a nice simple band which I love.
Part of the trend might have to do with the wedding industry making the bling-y ones the majority of hte ones available. Part of the trend might have to do with people wanting to flaunt wealth. Part of the trend might just be society saying the more bling the better. No matter what, it is easy to become surprised when you are accustomed to one idea and are smacked in the face with something totally different.
In the end, buy that which will make you the happiest.