Post # 16
@applejacks: Its not intended to be judgemental. It just literally did not even occur to me to get something so fancy. I totally understand that they are beautiful and that people should be able to get whatever they want and love as long as they can afford it. It seems like in some cases the feeling that you need to have a particular kind of ring causes a lot of stress and upset when it collides with the realities of limited budgets that doesn’t seem that necessary to me and looks, from the outside, like it may be drive by the proverbial keeping up with the Joneses and the perceived need to have as much bling as your sister, cousin, neighbor, coworker etc. It does seem sometimes like this is an artificial need that has been generated by effective advertising on the part of the industry that sells these rings. I think that that is unfortunate. But I think that people getting lovely rings which they love and can afford is wonderful.
Post # 17
I also don’t think it is a regional thing. I think it is a matter of preference. I am not worried aobut losing stones, damaging my ring, or losing it, so I chose to get stones in my band. I love it because is compliments my ering very nicely. It is not about greed or keeping up with the Jonses; it is about what you like, are comfortable with, and can afford. You will be wearing it for the rest of your life, and if you are the type of person that knows you will not want to upgrade later, then it makes sense to get the one you want now.
Post # 18
My Fiance and I got bands that are white gold with eachother’s fingerprint on the inside. On mine however I got 5 little stones, three sapphires and two diamonds. They are quite tiny and are only there because they remind me of when we got started dating. It also matches my engagement ring. But other than the 5 tiny stones it is just a narrow white gold band to match my FI’s. I do not plan on taking my band off. Maybe it is a regional thing. To each their own 🙂
Post # 19
Um, because I like fancy jewelry? So, it’d be weird if i had a plain band
Post # 20
Personally, the ring I have now is just gold, no stones but it is a very ornate style. It fits my personality, plus, I really like the idea of having something that you don’t see often. I like to stand out a bit and have my own style. Here’s a pic of my ring, and I don’t see that many people with a style like this. So it kinda is uniquely me.
Post # 21
In hindsight I wish I’d gotten a metal band, either plain flat metal or MAAAAYBE some sort of simple pattern/braid. I love my shared-prong eternity band, but now that I’ve been wearing it a month, the prongs catch on things (especially my hair!), I have to try to remember to take it off (then put it back on!!) to put lotions etc on since it gtes dirty REALLY fast, and with the diamonds, it’s thicker and sticks out further from my finger which can be uncomfortable.
I do think I was swayed by the wedding machine into getting a diamond band since it’s not really “me” to begin with. I wear no other jewelry, and there’s nothing glitzy or flashy about me. That all said, i DO still think it’s VEEERY pretty (just not functional for me)
Post # 22
There are a lot of wedding-realted things that I only learned about and decided I wanted after being exposed to blogs and message boards. Rings are no different.
I don’t think it’s regional so much as cultural and personal. I think most people plan on wearing this ring for a long, long time, so they want one that coordinates with their style and taste. Or (like me) they wanted it to match their e-ring. I may have chosen something different if it wasn’t a set, but I do love how they go together.
Post # 23
Actually, out of all the people I know, I’m definitely in the minority when it comes to a plain wedding band, so as far as I knew, having a fancy wedding band is pretty much the norm. And I don’t think it’s a matter of the wedding industry telling us what we need, rather a choice of personal wants and budget.
Post # 24
@Nightmaiden: I love your wedding band. In fact, I think I had something very like it in my inspiration file.
Post # 25
@Entangled: I will probably wear mine alone much of the time as well. I wasn’t even sure if my mother had an engagement ring until I asked because I don’t think I had ever seen it. (Turns out she wore through the band and had it repaired twice. The third time she put it away in her jewelry box for safe keeping.) The one thing that may get me to wear it more often is that my Fiance got a wedding band that matches my engagement ring.
I am going to wear my grandmother’s wedding ring. It is a plain band with very minimal ornamentation which is what I wanted and it is sentimental. My grandparents were happily married over 50 years when my grandmother passed away. I will be getting married exactly 3 weeks after what would have been their 70th wedding anniversy if they were alive. The only downside as far as I am concerned is that I don’t get to have our initials and wedding date engraved in my ring because their already is. I may have to get my engagement ring engraved instead.
Post # 26
I agree that plain bands don’t seem to be as common anymore (but e-rings seem fancier, too, maybe?). I think only one of my friends wears a plain band…
But that said, I got a plain gold band, mainly because of its practicality. I wanted to be able to where it all the time, even in situations where I’m afraid to wear my e-ring (like when i’m working with kids and finger paint. Ha!). Plus my e-ring is a claddaugh and I thought a fancy band would be a bit much for me.
But I agree with other posters: go with what you like and what fits your personality/lifestyle best 🙂
Post # 27
Apparently, the stones in engagement rings have gotten larger, and stones in wedding bands have become more common, over time. Personally, I would never criticize anyone who wanted diamonds, but I am frustrated by the fact that so many seem to see a diamond as a requirement for an engagement or marriage. Come on, folks–it’s a piece of jewelry, not a guarantee of a happy relationship!
NotFroofy and I decided early on that we did not want engagement rings, or wedding rings with stones. We both have plain gold bands as our wedding rings.
Post # 28
I wear my wedding band alone, so I wanted some diamonds.
Here is a stock photo of mine. It sparkles, and it’s just flashy enough. I love it:
Post # 29
I always thought that I would have a plain white gold band. However, the ering my man picked has a lot of diamonds so I ended up picking a band that also has some sparkle as well. When I tried a plain band with my ering it looked a little weird.
Post # 30
I always thought I wanted an all yellow gold band with nothing else, but then after trying them on, I realized I wanted a little more “sparkle” and ended up getting a channel set ring with some small diamonds on the front. In the future, for whatever reason, if I want to move my e-ring to my other hand, I like how the wedding band will look on its own still.