Post # 31
One thing that I do think is a recent trend is having 2 diamond bands, one on top and one under the e-ring.
The first time I heard about that was about a year ago, and it seems to have really taken off.
Post # 32
I also thought that I would get a plain band. My sister (who is getting married in September) got a plain platinum band to go with her gorgeous but very simple platinum solitaire. My mom has a plain band as well…but my maternal grandmother had a half eternity ring…so I think that styles just change and keep coming back in fashion (yellow gold is making a come back, for example).
I fell hard for my engagement ring (we picked it out together) and it is a three-stone ring (which I swore I would never get) with micro pave stones halfway around the band. When trying on my engagement ring with plain bands, it just didn’t look right. So, I’m going to get a half eternity ring…I love the way it looks, but also am sort of sad that I won’t have the plain band that I imagined.
I actually think that it’s more about options. Yes, you could argue that more people are willing to spend more money on bling…but I know (from what my mom has told me) in the past people just went to their local jewelery store and bought what they had in stock (which was usually the plain rings). Now, with the internet, etc. there are SO many options. As there wasn’t a Birks, Tiffany’s, or Blue Nile all over the country, people didn’t necessarily know what was out there. Plain or blingy, all wedding rings are beautiful in their own way.
Maybe we’re just spoiled by choice. 🙂
Post # 33
i also notice that most of my older relatives have plainer bands than the sets i see today, but they also usually have very diamond-y anniversary bands. i’m not sure if it’s regional, but it would make sense if diamond bands were more common in wealthy areas. personally i think it’s more about a lady’s style, like sleek and modern vs traditional and ornate.
when husband asked me what kind of band i wanted i told him plain white gold. i even explained that i thought i wedding band should be simple, because it was such a special symbol that it didn’t need sparklies all over it. we even discussed matching bands although that fell through when i found a tungsten ring for him. in the end i received a matching set, and since the “engagement” ring he chose was so ornate and antique style, the band matched with open metal work and very small diamonds. it’s absolutely beautiful but i do worry about damaging it when i’m working with metal parts at my job.
i think he picked it because it was a set, not because of status or the need for it to show his wealth, and it was much easier for him to do it that way and know that they “matched”. i notice most stores these days sell wedding sets with a sparkly band, so maybe they got smart and realized most guys don’t want to futz around with picking 2 rings that maybe his bride will like together. by pairing an ornate band with engagement rings they make more money.
i have considered buying an inexpensive plain white gold band to wear alone when the need arises. [attachment=1174979,148617]
Post # 34
I also wear my wedding ring alone and I wear my e-ring on my right hand. What surprises me isn’t fancy/ classic and simple, it is more that a lot of couples get rings that don’t match each other. My parents had plain gold bands and they matched so I always thought of the mens and womens as a “set”. Ours are a set but they arent identical. I’ll see if I have a picture 🙂
Post # 35
I think it is a generational thing. My Future Mother-In-Law, her friends, and some of the older teachers at work (in their 50’s or so) tend to have round solitares with a plain band and a plain yellow gold wedding band. My friends, Future Sister-In-Law, etc tend to have a wider variety of rings. However MANY of them have princess cut rings with side pave and then a wedding band with diamonds in white gold. I think it’s just a sign of the times, who knows what the popular trends will be in 20 years!
Post # 36
Here is my ring- his is the tiny stock photo, but you can see they have the same pattern, so they are a set.
Post # 37
I don’t know of anyone with a plain gold band exept for my parents! In fact, I don’t know of anyone with yellow gold wedding bands, everyone wears platinum. The look of “ice” just seems to be much more popular nowerdays. And diamonds on platinum does look really pretty! But, I had that with my ex and so I’m really glad to get something different.
My Fi always wanted a plain 18k yellow gold band. Yellow gold to me is classic, old and romantic – I like the way it looks on my skin and it’s much lighter than platinum, which I like. But it’s a little hard to find something in 18k yellow gold, especially since I want a very intricately carved wedding band. I love the look of old-looking bands, like antiques you’d find decades ago! It makes me smile just thinking about them, but it’s difficult to find something that looks so old, brand-new.
About the getting scratched up part, it’s interesting but my Fi espcially wanted a shiny, thick band so that he can scratch it up. He’s really looking forward to it! I’m kinda the same way – I think the real old rings with the engraving smooth after years of wear is really nice. I don’t know … it looks well used, I like that As for taking it off while gardening, I’d do that anyway, and Fi does too, so it doesn’t bother us much.
Post # 38
I will have a plain yellow gold band – I always envisioned having a plain band but kept and open mind while trying on different styles. In the end, the plain band worked best for me.
Post # 39
I am getting a plain white gold band for several reasons: my e-ring is large and I need something to balance it, a plain band will not get caught in the cotton gloves I might wear for my career and for band, nor will there be any crannies for dirt and horse hair to be caught in when I ride.
FH wants a sparkly, channel set ring (with sapphires) becuase he wants his own bit of sparkle. I think part of it may be that he really wants to show off that he’s married (past self esteem issues). Since he works with computers getting things caught will not be a concern like it will be for me. It was his decision and I support it.
Post # 40
I think that, as @corgi said, it used to be more common to have a plain band and that band was usually yellow gold. Now it is very common to have diamonds on the band and the band is usually white gold.
Post # 41
My Great Grandmas band from 1935 is my band, which is the diamond anniversary style. I had no idea there were other types until I got engaged (my mom’s was a cheap band my father bought her, but his had diamonds in it. Yes, they’re divorced now).
Post # 42
My band is a plain, very thick/heavy, rose gold ring. It is 106 years old and is the “matching” set to my 106 year old engagement ring–my fiance’s great-grandmother’s from her wedding in April 1904. I absolutely love it! It is engraved with his grandparents’ initials and wedding date. My engagement ring is a simple round solitaire set in platinum on a rose gold band.
I like it’s classic style. It fits my personality and taste. When I got engaged, my brother commented on how my sister and I have engagement rings and wedding bands to suite our personalities. Mine is a family heirloom and a simple design. My sister’s is a custom creation that is very intricate with a tension cut large diamond and intricate pave diamond band.
I am a social worker and once I am married (next Saturday!), I will wear my plain band when I travel and at work. The areas where I work are very marginalized and people do not even have enough to pay for food, let alone a fancy piece of jewelry so I do feel self conscious wearing a lot of “bling” and made sure that my fiance knew that I wanted a simple ring.
My sister is a police officer and she actually wound up buying a plain claddagh white gold band to wear at work as her engagement ring and band are too “blingy” for work.
To me, it is each their own! I really love my ring and I hope everyone on here knows that their ring is beautiful too.
Post # 43
as everyone has said, we all have our own sense of style.
my husband (as most men I know) has a totally plain gold band.
I’m not a fan of “big and bulky” having two huge rings…my e-ring was a solitaire and my wedding band is an “enahancer” that “hugs” the e-ring and makes it look like ONE ring:
the bottom ring is his – the top ring is both of mine, but the e-ring is “inside” the band – so again, it looks like one 🙂
Post # 44
I chose a simple, thin semi-eternity band. It will be worn alone since my e-ring is a halo that cannot be worn with anything other than a custom made band. I don’t think it’s flashy or fancy at all and while a plain band is very practical and serves its purpose–it is just too plain and standard for my taste
Post # 45
My wedding band will just be a plain silver band for now – honestly a diamond band just looks better with my ring – but we couldnt afford that right now – my wedding band cost all of $14 with free shipping from Overstock! 🙂