(Closed) Wedding Bands – Why so fancy?

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Miss Politico: minor threadjack, but can I PLEASE see pics of your rings?? I am a rose gold fanatic!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think style is personal choice/preference. You were describing normal is  a plain yellow-gold…that’s a bit dated these days, I guess. That was normal back in the days when my parents got married….the 70s… 

I knew I wanted a princessy, sparkly type of ring. I am my fiance’s princess…my wedding dress is princessy as well. We just think marriage is so special, I want to make it feel more special on our wedding. So it makes sense that I wanted a princess cut diamond(I just like that look!) and a band with diamond chips on the side! It is so sparkly in certain light! My wedding dress is sparkly as well. Also, it’s my personal choice that I wanted whitegold. The reason: my whole life I have preferred wearing sterling silver jewelry….I never really wore yellow gold….it’s just a personal preference…plus, silver looks prettier on me…so naturally I wanted whitegold, since I typically only wear silver. You mentioned that you think it’s more practical to not have to worry about diamonds following out or taking it off…..Well I do neither. I NEVER take off my ring….unless I am swimming. Also, I will get my ring checked once a year or every 6 mths to make sure it is okay… As far as my fiance, his preference is a plain wedding band…..

You shouldn’t worry about what others get, just get what you want. You can still find plain rings these days as well….I saw them in the stores I went to.

Post # 49
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I have never been one for sparkly things, and have seriously considered a simple wedding band.  My FI’s parents have both, Future Mother-In-Law has an eternity band with her 3-stone engagement ring, and Future Father-In-Law has a plain gold band.  In some cultures, the romance is that there is nothing on the band to interrupt the promise or bond made between husband and wife.  There is nothing wrong with either, I just have tried on many sparklies and, while they are beautiful, they are not me.  I don’t know what Fiance will get for me in terms of a ring (he is designing it and working with a jeweler), but he knows that I’m a practical girl that works with my hands.  I do believe that many things can unknowningly be based on status.  It doesn’t mean that every woman who has a sparkly wedding set feels that way, but it is interesting to look at from a sociological perspective to see what is really, subtly, influencing us into our decision-making as consumers under the surface.  I found that at first, when I was looking online, I had wanted something like a 2 carat princess cut stone with a split shank white gold band.  When we went to the store to try it on, I was surprised to find that it wasn’t at all me.  As we started looking online, we looked at gemstones and oxidized silver and other alternative rings, which at first I didn’t get the immediate “wedding/bridal” feeling from.  After lots of shopping and treating it like a journey/scavenger hunt, we found something that is still delicate, asymmetrical, and very unique, which will incorporate our personalities woven together.  

I also work in physical therapy.  Some of my coworkers have solitare prong settings, others have bezel settings, and one has a simple band, which I think is very practical, and it is still clear that she made a lifelong promise.  Whatever you and your SO/FI choose, if it speaks to you, then you know you’ve found a winner!  Good luck! 

Post # 50
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Blushing bee

I fully intend to have a plain band. I just think what’s the point in getting a diamond band as a wedding band? What if, later down the line, you want to get an eternity band? Then you can’t, or you can but then you’ll have two that look similar, and I don’t think that would work.

Post # 51
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

Why so fancy? Well, I wanted something really unique and my set would have looked pretty…well not unique with a plain band with my solitaire.

Post # 52
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Bee Keeper

I can hardly wait for my super-simple, straight, solid gold wedding band ๐Ÿ™‚

To me, gemstones belong on the engagement ring, and on cocktail rings.

The traditional wedding band has such a beautiful, timeless look to it, I don’t want anything else.

Post # 53
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I agree that it is personal preference. I have a plain gold band, but there seems to be a misconception that rings of the past were plainer than they are now. They may have been DIFFERENT, but not necessarily plainer. My mother had a fitted band to go with her e-ring, and intricate ring “guards” or puzzle-type rings – especially with marquise stones – were very popular in the ’80’s and early ’90’s. 

And given the art deco era and some of the very intricate vintage rings, had they been able to do pave bands at that time, they surely would have. There have been people interested in more “bling” since the dawn of jewelry, which doesn’t make it right or wrong. It just makes some tastes different from others.

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

Until I came on this site I wouldn’t have questioned getting the plain band I always imagined I’d wear, but now I’ve discovered the beauty of channel set diamonds.. I’ve never seen (or noticed) anyone wear a diamond wedding band (I’m British and living in Asia) but I can’t get them out of my head!!

I want my band to match my husband’s though, so we’ll see when we go shopping for wedding bands in the autumn ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t believe I personally know anybody with a “fancy” wedding band. I work in a pretty affluent area and I see the blinged out wedding bands on the wealthy ladies about 50% of the time (I have been paying attention since I got engaged!) but even then, plain bands are still quite normal. 

We’re actually getting plain bands in argentium sterling silver instead of white gold. I’ve got a ring made out of argentium silver that I wear daily and it doesn’t tarnish like regular silver. Both my fiance and I work with our hands, and my white gold e-ring looks pretty rough on the underside and looked like it needed replating after only 3 months. To contrast, my silver ring looks completely fine. We might replace our bands with platinum sometime later in our marriage, but silver is fine for now and much more affordable.

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I my experience and observation, the nouveau riche tends to be a bit flashier with bigger and more diamonds.  The folks I know (young and older) who came from generational wealth tend to be a bit less flashy with a more simple (but still beautiful) set.  It also depends on their individual tastes, not so much region. If you really want a plain band, you can find it. 

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think it is the trend right now to some degree – and yeah, I kind of think it is one of those things we are getting convinced we need.  But also, just like general fashion changes, I think jewelry styles also shift, and we are in a somewhat more ornate stage.  I always prefer bands to be a little more on the simpler side, but that’s just a personal preference.

@MsTerrapin:  Hello fellow terp! Just wanted to shout out. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 58
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Bee Keeper

@CARA1978:  I agree, it’s more of a subcultural thing in the way you described (with some individual variation within subcultures).

Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Two year old thread resurrected? lol.  (just pointing it out to those replying to the OP, in case others hadn’t realised)

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