Post # 1
Has anyone else noticed this?
I have been a member for almost a year and have noticed there have been some big changes over the last little while.
People are more judgmental, they get more personal and then people get defensive.
I miss the old WB!
Post # 3
Been a member almost a year, and I’ve noticed it too. I don’t post much anymore because of it and I keep kicking around the idea of leaving entirely.
Post # 4
I think some people have strong opinions and don’t watch their mouth on boards sometimes. I also think there are some fake profiles out there looking to stir up trouble. The other content is fabulous though (though I think there are too many bees sometimes).
Post # 5
Only takes one bad apple…
I don’t think the majority of us are here to argue silly personal issues!
I’m here cause you ladies are so helpful and keep me from tell my fiance my wedding plans a thousand times a day!
Also, I’ve gotten some great ideas from you guys =)
Post # 6
I feel, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, keep your thoughts to yourself” 🙂 Too many people give their two cents without being asked for it. Everyone has their own opinion and is entitled to it, but I totally agree with you!
Post # 7
I agree… it’s disheartening sometimes. I loved this site because of the supportive brides/grooms about things that are different.. there have been a few times lately where people respond to posts and I am actually really upset about what gets said (which is stupid, not like I actually know a lot of these people)… I wish it shifted back to the positive, happy, supportive of alternative ideas place that it used to be 🙁
Post # 8
@helen – I have also kicked around the idea!
Post # 9
I think posts like this one come about once every month or two…
Like everyone is PMSing at the same time; then it calms down. It is a great place to come; and there are soo many different people here, it’s normal that we won’t all share the same opinions. And we should all be comfortable sharing our opinions even if they are different or unpopular.
Some ideas are more shocking than others, and will make people react, but the beauty of it is that we’re in front of a keyboard and are able to edit what we write, so it’s totally possible to share a thought without attacking people.
Post # 10
I think it has changed, but some of the changes are for the better. For example, I have noticed that people seem more willing to offer honest feedback, which in my opinion is better than just throwing fluff around. But I do agree that some people are taking things too far or saying things just to be mean.
Post # 11
I feel like a certain maturity is lacking in a lot of recent posts. I’d like to talk with women, not girls, ya know?
Post # 12
Yes and no… i think for the most part this community has remained very supportive. Much more supportive than some other boards on other websites (ahem, theknot.com). It does seem like there have been a lot of new users recently… either b/c weddingbee just continues to gain in popularity, or just b/c it is now wedding season in most parts of the country, and people just have weddings on the mind. I think it’s up to the seasoned users on the boards to lead by example and show all of the newbees that this is a supportive community and harsh attacks will not be accepted.
Post # 13
I’ve been on here since about April 2009 and I agree, it has seemed to go a different direction. I think the biggest thing that bugs me is when a gal has a rant, then asks a question and people try to help her or ask why she feels that way and she gets upset, changes what her original post supposedly meant, wants to have it deleted (but can’t), etc. Those are the posts that really annoy me. I also think there are some girls on here that aren’t honest—and like you said, some are just fake profiles to stir up crap. It’s too bad. I have also thought about leaving, but I don’t see a “close my account” button anywhere so I’m guessing if I chose to do so I’d have to contact WB directly.
Edit: Melissa—amen sister!
Post # 14
I think there is just more “troll” traffic lately because it is summer and wedding season, etc. Trolls happen on every board and we can’t let them win! hahah.
Post # 15
@Melissa I completely agree!
It’s funny because I find myself checking ages of posters a lot more and then get very surprised when I see that they are not as young as I thought they were! It goes to show that maturity does not equal age.
Post # 16
I have a feeling this post was started in reaction to my thread that just got shut down …. many of the same bees are posting
I really hope you guys don’t think I’m a troll or trying to stir up trouble. I know what I was posting about this morning was a controversial topic but I was hoping to have an honest woman to woman debate amoung the bees – not lead to personal attacks and name calling.
I feel like I give lots of good feedback and support to the questions of other bees and have received a lot of good feedback to my own wedding-related questions as well. As a whole, I think this board is a great place but that on occasion things unfortuantely get out of hand.