Post # 1
Hey Bees! Me and my SO are hoping for a December 2016 wedding because we love Christmas and would like to celebrate around this time. The venue I really want to have my reception at doesn’t do December weddings before christmas due to the demand for functions/ parties and so they have available some dates between Xmas and NY or end of November.
Has anyone ever had their wedding/ been to a wedding between Xmas and NY? If so how was it and how did people react?
If it makes any difference our anniversary is Christmas Day.
Post # 2
Just being honest, I would not be happy if I had to go to wedding between Christmas and NY. Most families are traveling during that time to be with other members of their family and their SO family. Lots of people take vacations. I think you should do what you want, but I think you will see an increased number of declines in comparison to a wedding before or after NY.
Xmas 2016 is on a Sunday… New Years Eve is on a Saturday ins 2016. So most people will still be with their family that Monday and Tuesday. Most companies, you are off of work that Monday.
Post # 3
Yea I probably wouldn’t go. I read an article that said planning your wedding during the holiday season like that almost guarantees that a lot of people won’t show because they have too much stuff going on. I’d reconsider that personally.
Post # 4
How about a new years eve or new years day wedding?
Post # 5
I would not mind a wedding between Christmas and New Years if it was close by. It is a festive time of year and celebrations are fun and expected. However, I do agree with PP that you may find a higher decline rate due to family obligations and travel. If you choose to do it at this time, I would send Save-The-Date Cards even if its local, just so people can plan ahead if it is possible. I wouldn’t take declines personally though as you cannot expect a wedding to trump others holiday travel and traditions.
Post # 6
Yeah I wouldn’t go unless we were really really close. Most people are traveling during that time, and adding another trip is going to just add more stress and expense for them. What about after new year, like end of January? It’ll still be winter but less stress for everyone. I wouldn’t do it unless you don’t really mind a small turnout.
Post # 7
thosethreewords: I think for me it would make a difference if it was local or not. I would not want to travel during a time when prices are at their peak due to the holidays.
I also would wonder what day you would choose. Christmas Eve is Saturday Dec 24 and NYE is the following Saturday Dec 31. I probably would not go to a wedding Dec 23/30 either due to proximity to the holidays.
You just have to know your guests and what they would be comfortable with. There’s nothing wrong with pushing it to the first weekend in January 2017 either.
Post # 8
thosethreewords: My friend did this. I had headed home to NY for the holidays and her wedding was on a Wednesday in between Christmas and New Year’s which was smack dab in the middle of my visit home. I had to decline simply because to come back to Boston for a night would have added an extra level of complication to what already was a busy time. On top of that, I wanted to enjoy a break with my parents and extended family.
I think that as long as you are OK with more declines, you should do it if it works best for you two.
Post # 9
I think it’s ok, but understand that you may not have a lot of guests.
My parents got married three days after Christmas because it was the only time my mom’s brother could fly home for the wedding (he was in grad school on the other side of the country and money was tight). Most of my mom’s relatives were fairly local and went, but my dad’s family was further away and only his parents, aunt & uncle, and 2 cousins made it.
The flip side was that they didn’t have to worry about decorations at all, because the church was still decorated for Christmas, and there are some amazing photos (taken by family/friends) because it was very misty that day.
Post # 10
I would go. But I can see people with kids not wanting to go becuase thats the week kids have school off and parents prob want to spend time with them?
My friend went to a New Years Eve wedding and said it was the funnest wedding ever – could you do a NYE wedding?
EDIT: Correction – I would go if its local. If I had to travel I would not. I’ve been to all of my cousins weddings except for 2… the one who had hers on Dec 14th and the one who had his Jan 5th… I just cannot afford a plane ticket around Christmas time.
Post # 11
We always do our family vacation during Christmas. It’s also college football bowl season if your guests are big college football fans (SEC fan here, so it’s pretty big deal) and my Mom and I will usually go. The week after Christmas through early January is when the bowl games mostly are. That being said, it’s very difficult for my Fiance and I to get time off from work during the holidays and I would not give up my family vacation to attend a wedding unless it was my sister or best friend. Even then, I would pout about it.
Post # 12
Christmas is busy, expensive and stressfull enough without adding a wedding. Alot of people are travelling or just busy in general so i would suspect alot more declines coming your way.
Post # 13
I was Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding that happened between Christmas and New Years. She is one of my best friends and I would have gone anywhere at any time to be at her wedding. They had a fair amount of people traveling from out of town and out of the country and had high attendance. (This was a few years back and Christmas was on a Wednesday so I did Christmas with my family and then traveled to the wedding on Friday). Another friend of mine also got married that week, but she had a smaller wedding planned with mostly local guests.
I would check with the people you most care about being there and go from there. People use the same arguments about traveling during the summer over holiday weekends (Memorial Day, 4th of July) (it’s more expensive, limited vacation time, regular family plans, etc) and at the end of the day you’ll almost never have 100% of your guest list RSVP yes. If close friends and family will comit to being there, and it’s something you and your Fiance want then go for it.
Post # 14
We travel between my family and my in laws the week after Christmas. My Mother-In-Law would have a fit if her holiday visit was impacted by your wedding (although I may prefer it to going to visit the ILs!! 😉 )
Post # 15
thosethreewords: It’s difficult to get people around that time. How about right after New Year’s? Like first weekend in January? Prices would probably be better around that time and you can still decorate it festively (everything will be in clearance, lol)