(Closed) Wedding Bill *Vent*

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

What if they set it up as a gift? Tell them that both you and your Fiance are paying for the wedding yourselves and they can gift you money. You’re not obligated ot use it towards paying for the wedding and you take out the “which side contributed more to the wedding” scenario.

Post # 4
Member
857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@BananaNutMuffin12:  I would lay it out to them, again, clear as day. Tell them you appreciate their help, and your parents are contributing the maximum they can. Then, if Future Father-In-Law still doesnt get it, i’d thank him for his offer to pay, and you and Fiance will take care of it all – even if that  means cutting the guest list, changing venue, etc. 

Don’t let him be a bully, and don’t allow yourself or your parents to be made feel bad because of it. 

Post # 6
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just be blunt and have your Fiance state that while you very much appreciate his gift toward the wedding, but this type of conversation about what your parents are giving makes you very uncomfortable.  If they decide they are unable to give anything after all, to please let you know, but each side is giving what they can, and you won’t be sharing that information with each other. 

Post # 7
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433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@BananaNutMuffin12:  

 

Yikes, that is an awkward situation. Your fiance needs to control this, since it’s his parents, he needs to call them and firmly instruct them to stop badgering your parents for money because it’s putting stress on you. As long as the two of you come up with the remainder of the funds his parents shouldn’t be concerned about what your parents are or are not paying.

Post # 8
Member
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@BananaNutMuffin12:  

 

Yikes, that is an awkward situation. Your fiance needs to control this, since it’s his parents, he needs to call them and firmly instruct them to stop badgering your parents for money because it’s putting stress on you. As long as the two of you come up with the remainder of the funds his parents shouldn’t be concerned about what your parents are or are not paying.

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