- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
This may be long, so I apologize in advance.
I am getting married 9/27/13. Big bridal party. 8 BM’s, 8 GM’s, 3 hostesses, 3 ushers.
Half of my bridal party is out of state, including my Maid/Matron of Honor who is my older sister. I lost my mother 2 years ago. I am a Daddy’s girl but he is disabled so getting him out is hard.
My Fiance is a very active groom, I give him that. But there is all the girly stuff I want to do with my bridal party and all my local BM’s are “busy” or could care less. I shopped for a dress alone, shoe shopping alone, veil shoppping alone. I am a very giving person, and I do anything for anyone to see a smile on their face. Any time I want to do something wedding related none of my friends can be bothered unless it’s going to benefit them directly, like shopping for THEIR shoes, or which Groomsmen THEY are going to walk down the aisle with.
Last week we had our planning menu at the venue. I asked my dad to come since he is helping pay for it so he could feel a part of the process instead of just forking over a check. He confirmed with me 2 days before and asked me to email him directions which I did. Fiance and I get to the venue the day of and no dad. I call him and he is home chillin’. He forgot. That hurt me like you wouldn’t believe. My dad is not someone to forget something or let me down so it I took that as a blow. I spent the whole planning meeting fighting back tears. Mind you, we are only doing this big wedding because my dad can’t travel and he asked for us to keep the wedding local since I am his first child to get married. Fiance and I wanted to have a destination wedding in St Thomas with just a couple close friends/family and keep it moving.
We got our first wedding gift in the mail a couple weeks ago from my boss. When I thanked her she said she still had to get me bridal shower gift. I said I am pretty sure I am having not one, but thank you anyway. Which wasn’t a big deal for me because I had it in my head early I wouldn’t have one. She was like “what?!?”. So needless to say, she is throwing me an office bridal shower because she feels bad. When I was telling a friend (who is not in the wedding) about my boss, she said she would have done the same thing. Anytime anyone is having a life event, big or small, I am the first to throw something for them.
I asked my BM’s if we could go out together because I still need earrings and I know they all still need accessories so thought it would be a fun day out. Everyone had some sort of excuse although when I made this suggestion 2 weeks ago everyone was like “pick the day and I am there!!”
And it’s not just that, but there have been other little things I have asked the 4 local BM’s to do, but there is always some sort of issue.
I just imagined the whole wedding process to be fun. The dress shopping etc, and I haven’t experienced any of that. I know when a friend of mine was getting (she is in my wedding but she broke off her engagement), I ate, slept, breathed her wedding. At her disposal to do any and everything she needed/wanted me to do.
As much as I hate to say it, I am beginning to really care less about this wedding.