- 11 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
Sticky situation for sure. Do you and your Fiance spend a lot of time with your family? I apologize if you have already addressed this but the more time you spend with them, the more time they have to get to know him and to get to know the two of you as a couple. Your mom might just be feeling left out, and knowing that you aren’t discussing the wedding decisions with your family as much as your FI’s family might be making the situation worse (unless she doesn’t know that).
My mom is my brother’s stepmom and when he was planning his wedding, she felt really left out because my brother wasn’t really sharing many of the details with her and my dad. My parents got married when he was 10 so she has been in his life for over 20 years. They just felt left out and wanted to be a part of it. They also didn’t know his fiancee very well since they only dated for about a year. She just wanted the chance to get to know her future daughter-in-law and share in the joy.
It is nice that they are concerned about you because it means they love you very much. Weddings are so trick because you can’t make everyone happy but you want it to be just as happy for your family as it will be for you. I am sure that the more they get to know him, the more receptive your family will be to the idea.