(Closed) Wedding Blues vent

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1526 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry 🙁 That is disappointing a lot of his extended family didn’t show up. I would try to focus on the happy parts that went well in the wedding. And that you’re married!! Look forward to the pictures you did get and your honeymoon if you’re having one. Read all of the nice cards you got and open the presents 🙂 

Post # 4
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1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That totally sucks!  I’d be pissed.. I can’t believe so many ppl RSVP’d yes then didnt show!  I never understand why people do that.. I guess they don’t understand that they’ve been paid for.. or just don’t care.  Ugh. And I’d also be upset about the lack of a card from the in-laws.  :o(

I agree with the PP though. Try to focus on the happy parts while they’re still fresh in your memory.  Remember the wonderful, beautiful parts of your day and countdown until you get those precious pictures!  Enjoy your new husband.

Post # 5
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835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Lord, this sounds so familiar. We aren’t quite married yet, but I have had extremely familiar snafoos with my mother-in-law for things she said she would do/wanted to do then the idea or suggestion flew away into the oblivion. The best thing I can say to you, and me, don’t get offended. I know it’s hard not to, but clearly she is oblivious. At least your parents are great, right? And like my hairdresser said the other day, just thank god you get to spend “life” (as in the day in day out stuff) with your hubbs and not your in-laws!! And trust me, I agree that it is sooo tempting to make a passive aggressive comment (I am, like you, a card person. My mom got them for fridays in our house growing up, no lie.) Just remember, once you say it, there is no going back…lol! Good luck!!

Post # 6
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835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

But yeah, that would piss me off big time about the no shows. Especially being on their side. I would be so attempted to have a convo in another room of their house about paying your rents back, and oops, they overhear it…. Don’t listen to that advice…BAD ME! But ERRR!!

Post # 7
Member
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

This is just so sad. I’m so sorry. I hope this isn’t what happens after weddings…

Post # 9
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I absolutely, 100% feel for you and understand. A little different, but sort of the same scenario with us. I just want to throttle my husband’s side of the family for treating him so poorly when he’s the sweetest man you’ll ever meet. Try to move on knowing that you two are your own little family now.

As far as investigating with the in-laws? I would. But be prepared that you might not get the answer you were hoping for “You didn’t get our card?? It must have gotten lost!”.

And the extended family not wanting to make the drive? Just remember that next time they invite you to their special events.

Ugh, people can dissapoint us so much! It’s in yours and your husband’s power to move on and be happy and not bend over backwards for these people again.

CONGRATS!!

Post # 10
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5762 posts
Bee Keeper

I’ll never understand how some people are wired. Being thoughtful and kind never seems to occur to some of them, and it’s even worse when it’s family members you know and love. I want to sometimes scream ‘How DARE they’?!

I’m not sure by your post what kind of relationship your husband has with his parents, so why can’t he openly discuss with them his disappointment? Many people aren’t good with confrontation, but maybe that’s the only way to resolve this for both of you.

Post # 11
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Pupperoni: Dont let the people not showing up overshadow the fact that you are in love and you are married to a special man

 

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