Wedding Blues- Wedding Guests

posted 3 months ago in Guests
Post # 2
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

naomiw077 :  Hopefully you feel cheated due to  the no shows and the people who arrived late. Not because of the lack of gifts, you throw the reception to thank your guests for celebrating your union. 

Also, are these guests normally inconsiderate and late? If so, they were operating in their normal manner. 

I’m sorry you feel let down by your guests. I hope you can see pick out some beautiful memories of your day. 

Editing: I empathize with feeling down. Decompress and reflect on what went right.

Post # 3
1200 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

naomiw077 :  Ugh…people suck. I’m sorry. That’s very inconsiderate of them to not show up or show up late.

The gift thing. Yeah..people aren’t obligated to give gifts. But it sure does feel nice when you do receive them. I get that you’re not trying to come across selfish. But I also know how nice it is to feel the love and support from people.

Try to focus on the positive. You got married!! To your husband!! Congrats!

Post # 5
587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Are they always that rude?  Seems strange so many people would turn up late and leave early.

Was it a very casual wedding?

Try not to think about it as wasted money, you would have paid the same either way. 

Post # 7
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

naomiw077 :  I understand completely! It sucks that people can be so inconsiderate. ((hugs)) We had a couple not show up, but they sent us a gift card about a month after the wedding. 

So don’t be surprised if you receive cards/gifts after the wedding. 😊

On a happy note, congratulations and welcome to married life!!!

Post # 8
2339 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

naomiw077 :  So a lot of your guests had to drive in for your wedding?  Are they the ones that were late?  You do realize it was a holiday weekend, right?  We drove out of state this weekend (Saturday) and what should have been an hour trip took us 2 and 1/2 hours – in good weather.  Maybe your guests were just exhausted.  And if they were traveling, I really wouldn’t have expected gifts.

Focus on who was there.  You’re not going to get your money back, so let that go.

If that many people were late there really has to be more than people just being rude.

Post # 10
1256 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

That sucks, to be honest (as someone who doesn’t consider gifts as something that makes a guest worth it or not), the combination of wasted money on top of not being appreciated would make me upset too. I don’t like people who are late or no-shows to weddings or other important events, this is a milestone, a personal moment the hosts are sharing, and being late shows you don’t respect the hosts enough. I have one friend who is cronically late. No matter what she will be late, but she arrived at our wedding early, because she cares and made an effort. It’s not hard to do . So yeah your guests were rude. But it’s over now. Forget about them because now you’re married. The best thing you can do is lead by example, if any of them invite you to their wedding or event, rsvp on time, arrive early, be polite, bring a gift if you can (but again it’s not about gifts, if you financially can’t, then don’t). 

Post # 11
289 posts
Helper bee

88 people out of your 90 guests have such a lack of etiquette that they did not even bring a card?!  How horribly embarrassing for them.  I’m so sorry, Bee.  I would be hurt as well.

Post # 12
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’d be gutted and they are rude! some bees sound so understanding when they respond, I bet they would feel shit on if it were them – though I commend their advice  to focus on the the positives. 

wonder if it was herd behaviour and once one left etc they just followed

Post # 13
295 posts
Helper bee

What bad manners to go to a wedding without a gift. A card can be gotten for $1. There is no excuse for this, not from so many. Are you young, are your friends young? Sometimes people do not understand what to do when they go for a wedding. 

Post # 14
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

(((HUGS))) That sounds terrible. A similar thing happened at my Mom’s wedding. 120 people said they would come, but only 80 people showed. And only 40 people stayed past the cake cutting! She was crushed. Hopefully in time your happy memories will outweigh the bad ones 🙂

Post # 15
10 posts
  • Wedding: September 2017

You really get to know people when it comes to weddings!

It amazes me how no one formally RSVP’s. Its so hard to plan a wedding and its like no one can really be bothered. 

Hopefuly they will understand when it comes to planning their own wedding and they will regret how rude and thiughtless they were.

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