Wedding Blues- Wedding Guests

posted 3 months ago in Guests
Post # 16
2302 posts
Buzzing bee

naomiw077 : Bee, I feel your pain.

We had no shows, maybe about 7 to 10, but not as much as you but I thought WTF. I could have invited other people.

Yep, my guests showed up late as well. I was standing in between cars waiting for my guests to arrive as they passed me by going down to the venue. Its like hey, thanks for showing up on time. ughh.

Half my guests left after the cake cutting too. I was super annoyed and let down by it as well. Its like dude, I feed you then you run. Ya can’t even dance a little? Say hi, …something. Eh,…..

You have a right to your feelings I was super pissy and angry right after the wedding as well. Give yourself time to mourn. It will fade a bit and not sting as much and then you can focus on other things, like I am trying to do.

Post # 17
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Combermere Abbey

I feel for you Bee. I am going through my own guest list dramas. But at the end of the day you cannot control what people do. So you may as well let it go as it’s outside of your power.

Post # 19
2302 posts
Buzzing bee

naomiw077 :  Sometimes venting is helpful. 

When I posted my vent I realized that I wasn’t alone with somethings that happened at my wedding. That did make me feel better because I wasn’t on an island.


Post # 20
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Something sounds off here.. To have that many people you categorize as “close” act that way on your wedding is a sign of how they think of you.  Have you evaluated your actions and behavior around them in the past as a possible theory? Not that you are to blame for people who are truly unethical, but this is rather extreme. 

Also, it really could just be a combination of poor location and the holiday weekend. 

Post # 21
508 posts
Busy bee

I don’t blame you for being upset that things didn’t go as you had hoped. Most anyone feels that way over problems with a wedding. I’m not asking to upset you, but is there any chance that guests were told by someone that you didn’t want gifts?  It does seem strange to me that so few people brought any kind of a gift. I wonder if there was a misunderstanding on whether you wanted them.

I’m asking because when my husband and I had our wedding we found out later that a lot of people were told this or that when it came to our wedding and none of it was true. Including some people were told that our wedding had been moved to another location and it was not!  They all claimed it came from the same individual and when I asked said person about it she just never answered. This person had also assumed she was going to have  a certain role in  the wedding, then after finding out it wasn’t going to happen, she didn’t come. I’m wondering if maybe there was something going on behind the scenes of all this. Either way, I’m sure your wedding was beautiful, though I totally understand being upset when there are disapointments. If you have a link to pictures from your wedding I’d love to see, maybe concentrating on the good parts will help, it usually does for me. Chin up.


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