(Closed) Wedding Budget Blues

posted 11 years ago in Money
Post # 17
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119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

First off don’t get discouraged! My fiance and I are setting a budget of $8K and at this point everything we’ve looked at has been out of budget. What we’ve been trying to do is compensate for the reception by altering our budget for other things. For example I really loved these invitations that would be about $600 printed with all the extras, but to save we’re going with a print your own using a collection put out by Brides that you can buy through Michaels. They are literally $60 for all of our invitations with envelopes, RSVP’s and reception cards. I have to make a map, but that is it.

A potluck is a good idea for a few reasons. First because it spreads the food out between people so one person isn’t scrambling to make everything. Second, if you and your Fiance complie a list of foods you like, and have family and friends who are willing to make it, you can have all the stuff you want for minimal cost. Granted it seems a little hookey, but if it gets the job done and you enjoy your day, thats all the matters!

 

Post # 19
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140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2001

My fiance and I are also planning a small buget wedding. I wouldn’t do a pot luck because so many people are weirded out by eating things people they don’t know cooked, and I DEFINITELY wouldn’t charge people to come to your wedding, considering they will be bringing gifts. So keep in mind you will be getting some of what you put into the wedding back.

Check halls that allow your own caterer in and alcohol. A hall I’m very interested it is only $500 to rent. If you end up doing it in a park, you can rent huge girls for a couple hundred dollars and have BBQ food with chicken, sausage, and all the other bbq sides. Also just do beer and wine, you could have a couple kegs and a boxed wine and people would be fine. But if you are set on having liquor as well, just have vodka, rum, and whiskey. If you want to check your local colleges for photographers, djs, someone to make your cake, and what not. Students are always looking to update their portfolios and they will do it for CHEAP! For hair and nails and make up, if you aren’t picky, go to cosmetology schools. Even if you don’t want to get your hair done there, you can at least save a bit of money by getting a mani and pedi there. Also, skip out on favors. We aren’t having them because people just end up leaving them at the reception most of the time. When you get your alterations, check around for people who do it out of their homes and have smaller businesses. If you go through the bridal store you’re likely to pay tons and tons more. There are websites that you can rent cakes through, and you can just have sheet cakes that will be served to the guest. Hope those few things helped!

 

Good luck with your budget.

Post # 20
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 1969

do a lot yourself. flowers, invitations… do you have friends/ family that can help with things? bakers? photographers? musicians? etc.

Post # 21
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314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Something you could consider if you don’t want to do a potluck would be to order the main entree from a catering company and then make the rest of the food yourself (have mothers, aunts, etc help with this).

Here are links to two weddings where they made their own food and saved a lot of money: 

http://www.thisyounghouse.com/wedding-album/

http://abackyardwedding.blogspot.com/search/label/food

In terms of alcohol if you have a place like a Costco or Sam’s club near you, you could always buy wine and beer from there and just put it on ice. You could hire a friend of a friend to help "bartend."

Instead of a wedding cake you could always buy a few different cakes and set them up on cake stands.  Here is an example of that:  http://www.stylemepretty.com/2008/12/31/a-look-back-ii/

I would say overall, if you have good relationships with friends and family, is to call on them and use their individual talents to get stuff done/made.

 

Post # 22
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1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It can be done! We are doing our wedding for about 12 with 80geusts

Just think outside the box. Have someone make the food and bring your own booze.

You also don’t have to serve dinner. You could serve "hearty appitizers" and that is much cheaper to do. You don’t have to do open bar…you can choose to just serve wine and beer.

 

We are saving money by:

Printing my own invitations that I bought at Target. Doing my own flowers that I buy at the farmer’s market. Borrowing other people’s vases or buying them at thrift stores and ross. We are buying our own beer and wine at cosco.

I put an add on cragislist and got my video for only $300. I came up with the idea after Miss Joey got her photog that way. Think outside the box. Be willing to hire students or people who are not pros.

Post # 23
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428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House

If you still want to do potluck/BYOB, maybe you could state:  In lieu of gifts, we would like you to bring your favorite menu item and/or drink to help us celebrate!

I went to a wedding about 2 years ago that did BYOB (there were at least 500 guests at the reception) and it was fine.  The bride and goom served a dessert buffet and no dinner was served (reception started later in the evening).  However, this was probably a common custom for their culture… so if you think your guests will be offended, don’t do it.  You could also serve just the main course and dessert and invite everyone to bring their favorite side dish.

Post # 24
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428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House

I would not ask guests to pay a "cover fee" though.

Post # 25
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101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Have you thought about having it on a Sunday and/or doing a brunch or lunch instead of dinner? Or you can do a cocktail party with appetizers instead of a full meal…use an MP3 player instead of a DJ/band…

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Yeah, don’t charge people. That really won’t go over well.

 Potluck could work…it just depends on your guest list. I know I could never do that with mine. It would be a disaster.

 Okay, here are some ideas in no particular order:

 1. Have a morning or afternoon wedding and reception.

2. Find a location that you can bringin your own wine bottles, but don’t have the guests bring wine.

3. Have a dessert reception. If you can, have a 2 pm wedding, and 3pm reception and serve things like cookies and cake, but no meal.

4. As someone already said, lower the guest list!

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