(Closed) Wedding budget – Christian values

posted 5 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Think of it this way: every dime you spend is going to support another person, another family.  The people making your food for the wedding are probably not living some lavish lifestyle.  You are helping to support their families. 

I’m not sure why you think your food will be wasted.  If you are having a buffet, maybe you could have the extras packed up at the end and donate it to a soup kitchen?

Flowers: if you are really concerned, you don’t need flowers.  But honestly, what are they here on earth for if not for us to enjoy?

Other ideas for giving back through your wedding: donate your wedding dress to Brides Against Breast Cancer.  That’s where I bought my dress from, they seem like a great organization. 

You could forgo a traditional registry and set up a website where your guests could choose from various charities to donate to instead?

 

I hope this helps!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MmeVT:  +1

 

Have a grateful heart (which I believe you do), thank the Lord every night, and try to give as much as you can. The Lord knows your heart, remember that, which I think is in a very Christian place from your post. 

Post # 7
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@mrsZiggs:  I just sort of thought up that idea, but a quick google search found this organization: https://www.idofoundation.org/

I would just make sure they don’t take a cut of any donations given.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m actually not a Christian myself, but wanted to add to a response on your concern over flowers. Yes, they pretty much exist for us to enjoy, but one thing you CAN do with those flowers, is have someone take them to a local retirement home or hospital once your wedding is done with. Others can enjoy those beautiful flower arangements after your wedding as well. 🙂

I also second dontaing your dress to a cause once you are done if you aren’t looking to keep it or pass it down for future generations.

Best of luck!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Have you already bought your dress?  If not, buy pre-owned – and donate it afterwards to a needy bride (you can search online for places looking for dresses). 

Regarding the flowers…have you thought about not doing cut flowers?  We had potted plants at the tables that my Mother-In-Law put together, ontop of quilted 8-sided placements that my mom made.  (Blend of the families!)  If you do something like potted plants, you can donate it afterwards to an organization who would love them (e.g. nursing home?) or just to your guests, as we did.

Regarding trying to give away everything, live on $5/day, etc…it’s interesting because that’s one of the flaws of an ethical theory called utilitarianism, where you seek to do the action that will create the greatest utility, or good.  For example, this could be a great amount for one person, or a little for a lot of people.  Anyhow, the issue is – where do you stop giving?  You could give until you gave everything away (except what you need to make more money perhaps, such as a work wardrobe or such.)  That’s obviously something you have to resolve for yourself.

Post # 10
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5221 posts
Bee Keeper

Only you and God know what the right balance is, but I do encourage balance. More importantly than the dollar amount in the bank account is the condition of the heart behind it. Every person has their contribution to the church and community– the rich, the poor and those in between.  If you live frugally on a day to day basis, and have been concious during planning to spend wisely, I see that as a huge testament to how you approach money and your priorities.

 

PS: we had several members take our flowers from the reception with them afterwards ( our wedding was on Mothers Day)

Post # 11
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799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MmeVT:  Speaking of not taking a cut, charity water is a great org. A little bit of money ($20 i believe) gives one person clean water for life. They have all their overhead/staff costs covered by private donors so donations from the general public are purely to the charity’s purpose. 

http://www.charitywater.org/100percent/

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@spoiledvamp27:  I’d never thought of this before. I absolutely love the idea of taking the flowers to a nursing home. My grandmother was in one towards the end of her life and it’s so sad to see some of the people there who have no one to visit or care about them. I think being given flowers would just make them so happy even if only for an instant.

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