Post # 1
My parents are being extremely generous and are paying for our wedding. They wrote my Fiance and I a check for the total budget and told us we could use what we needed and then keep anything leftover as a wedding gift. I’m really struggling with this and could use some advice. So far, we’ve been picking everything under budget. We’re a few thousand under our budget and it would be extremely nice to use the leftover towards the honeymoon or just savings. But, I find myself wanting to forgo some things in order to have money leftover for us to save.
For instance, I’ve found a videographer I love, but we didn’t have the budget originally for one. Because we’re under budget with everything else, we have the wiggle room to add the videographer. However, this would significantly decrease the amount of leftover money we’d have for savings. What would you do? Spend the money to get the wedding of your dreams, or save in order to have honeymoon/savings money?
Just an aside – my Fiance and I have enough in savings already to cover the honeymoon as well as having about 6 month’s worth of savings. So we don’t need the extra money for savings, but obviously would be amazing to have more money in savings.
Post # 2
Have the wedding you really want.
You’re financially stable and you got free money to pay for the wedding. Don’t go get an ice sculpture just because you can or anything, but get the videographer and whatever else you really, really want. If there’s money left at the end, great.
Post # 3
Ask yourself this: how often will you watch you wedding video, really? If you are the type who would watch at every anniversary, show the kids, post to YouTube, then splurge. If it will sit on a shelf until you die of old age, put that money into savings instead. Personally I don’t think if I had videoed the wedding that I’d have watched much. I only look at my album occasionally. Not worth it. For others they are thrilled with them, particularly since it’s actually pretty hard to remember the wedding day!
Post # 4
I would get the videographer that you want, especially if you don’t NEED the extra money
Post # 5
I’m obsessed with wedding planner advice articles and the most common one I hear is ‘Go for the videographer – I’ve never had a couple regret it’.
You’re spending all this money on one day, I really think spending a bit extra to document the day (especially when it goes by so quickly apparently!) is worth it.
Post # 6
Agree with skunktastic in that you need to decide how often you’ll realistically watch the video or will you most likely just look at photos? If the video is important to you and you think you’ll get good use out of it, I say go for it.
Is that the only thing you wanted to spent money on but not sure about?
Post # 7
I’d get what I wanted for the wedding. That is the primary purpose of the gift, after all. Your parents probably imagined you’d spend what you wanted on the wedding and if you happened to have leftovers you could keep it, rather than intentionally trying not to spend it.
Post # 8
I’d go with the videographer – I know couples who wished they got one for their wedding. It was a priority for me because I love watching videos, I’m constantly on YouTube, and I love watching others’ video recaps too. It’ll help me remember the day better because my memory is pretty crap!
Post # 9
missyjz : yes so far this is really the only thing that we’d considered going over budget for. We’re still over a year out from our wedding so there may be things that pop up, but I’m pretty sure we’ve efficiently budgeted for those.
Post # 10
I think it depends on how far over budget you’d be going, and how much that budget is. If you’re already spending $20k on a wedding and this’ll put you $2k over, then no big deal. But if it’s a $10k wedding and this puts you $2k over, that’s a different situation.
For me, personally, I’ve never been to a wedding with a videographer and I know I’d never watch my video. To me, it’d be a luxury. However, if you really love the idea, then go for it!
Post # 11
I love my wedding video highlights….
every time I feel like killing my Darling Husband for some stupid argument, I watch that 4 minutes video and it makes me so happy that my killer insticnts go away quickly…
the real 45 mins video we saw it once and put the usb in a drawer; however I like knowing that we have it, and that someday we’ll be able to show our children
Post # 12
You have the money – splurge for the videographer! Videography wasn’t on our list either until one of my best friends told me that not doing it was the one thing she regretted about her wedding. I am SO glad we did it – I watch our highlights all the time. And it was totally amazing to see how much was captured that I never saw – not to mention the things that we’d certainly forget down the line… like the toasts and all the little moments in the ceremony. We had a really talented photographer and I love how our photos came out, but ultimately videography captures the day in a much more complete way. I say go for it!
Post # 13
fourthnoel : There WILL be things that pop up. My vote is save the money. We have a video of our wedding. Watched it once, been married over 21 years, still need to get it transferred to digital.