Wedding Budget Dilemma – Help!

posted 3 years ago in Money
  • poll: What should I do with my parent's wedding gift/budget?

    Try to stay under budget to keep the remaining money and put it towards savings

    Get the wedding of your dreams and don't worry about having extra money to put towards savings

  • Post # 2
    4951 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Have the wedding you really want. 

    You’re financially stable and you got free money to pay for the wedding. Don’t go get an ice sculpture just because you can or anything, but get the videographer and whatever else you really, really want. If there’s money left at the end, great. 

    Post # 3
    6921 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Ask yourself this: how often will you watch you wedding video, really? If you are the type who would watch at every anniversary, show the kids, post to YouTube, then splurge. If it will sit on a shelf until you die of old age, put that money into savings instead. Personally I don’t think if I had videoed the wedding that I’d have watched much. I only look at my album occasionally. Not worth it. For others they are thrilled with them, particularly since it’s actually pretty hard to remember the wedding day!

    Post # 4
    1197 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I would get the videographer that you want, especially if you don’t NEED the extra money

    Post # 5
    36 posts
    • Wedding: June 2018

    I’m obsessed with wedding planner advice articles and the most common one I hear is ‘Go for the videographer – I’ve never had a couple regret it’.

    You’re spending all this money on one day, I really think spending a bit extra to document the day (especially when it goes by so quickly apparently!) is worth it.

    Post # 6
    1204 posts
    Bumble bee

    Agree with skunktastic in that you need to decide how often you’ll realistically watch the video or will you most likely just look at photos? If the video is important to you and you think you’ll get good use out of it, I say go for it. 

    Is that the only thing you wanted to spent money on but not sure about?

    Post # 7
    3825 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    I’d get what I wanted for the wedding. That is the primary purpose of the gift, after all. Your parents probably imagined you’d spend what you wanted on the wedding and if you happened to have leftovers you could keep it, rather than intentionally trying not to spend it. 

    Post # 8
    176 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’d go with the videographer – I know couples who wished they got one for their wedding. It was a priority for me because I love watching videos, I’m constantly on YouTube, and I love watching others’ video recaps too. It’ll help me remember the day better because my memory is pretty crap!

    Post # 10
    325 posts
    Helper bee

    I think it depends on how far over budget you’d be going, and how much that budget is. If you’re already spending $20k on a wedding and this’ll put you $2k over, then no big deal. But if it’s a $10k wedding and this puts you $2k over, that’s a different situation.

    For me, personally, I’ve never been to a wedding with a videographer and I know I’d never watch my video. To me, it’d be a luxury. However, if you really love the idea, then go for it!

    Post # 11
    379 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2017

    I love my wedding video highlights….

    every time I feel like killing my DH for some stupid argument, I watch that 4 minutes video and it makes me so happy that my killer insticnts go away quickly…

    the real 45 mins video we saw it once and put the usb in a drawer; however I like knowing that we have it, and that someday we’ll be able to show our children

    Post # 12
    641 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2018

    You have the money – splurge for the videographer! Videography wasn’t on our list either until one of my best friends told me that not doing it was the one thing she regretted about her wedding. I am SO glad we did it – I watch our highlights all the time. And it was totally amazing to see how much was captured that I never saw – not to mention the things that we’d certainly forget down the line… like the toasts and all the little moments in the ceremony. We had a really talented photographer and I love how our photos came out, but ultimately videography captures the day in a much more complete way. I say go for it!

    Post # 13
    1832 posts
    Buzzing bee

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    fourthnoel :  There WILL be things that pop up.  My vote is save the money.  We have a video of our wedding.  Watched it once, been married over 21 years, still need to get it transferred to digital.  

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