Post # 1
A colleague of mine recently got engaged, and wants to have her wedding September 25, 2010. Sounds great, right?
Wrong! We are CPAs at a public accounting firm working in the corporate tax group, which means that we have a huge deadline September 15, and some smaller deadlines October 1 and October 15. For those out there who are not accountants, here is the situation: we work our butts off round the clock from the last week of August through September 15th, meaning 7 days a week, 10-12 hours a day. No weekends off. No time for last minute vendor appointments, DIY projects, etc. While technically she can "skip" the 10/1 deadline for her wedding/honeymoon, she will be working many long hours in the weeks leading up to the wedding, and will come back from her honeymoon to 2 more semi-strenuous weeks at the office.
Personally, I think she’s a little nuts to think she can maintain her sanity during this time. There is no legitimate reason why she wants her wedding then – no schooling, family issues, money issues, deployment, etc. She just always wanted a fall wedding, but doesn’t want to push it until October because it will be too cold.
Since I’m not married, she doesn’t seem to take me seriously when I tell her that it will be a lot of work. From what she says, it sounds as though her wedding will be very traditional – church ceremony, country club reception, 200-250 guests, fairly generous budget but still lots of DIY project. This isn’t a small, 20-guest beach nuptial with minimal planning.
So brides – is she crazy? Is it doable? What are the few weeks leading up to the wedding like?
Post # 3
Life is crazy planning a wedding, but if that’s when she wants it leave her alone, she’ll make it work.
Post # 4
Yeah, seems like she should know she’ll be busy and plan accordingly, right? She’s got plenty of time to change her mind if she wants to, but it sounds like telling her she’s wrong probably won’t convince her, just make her more resolved!
Post # 5
Oh, I wouldn’t try to tell her what to do or convince her to move the date. I guess that kind of came out wrong. I am really curious because I know that someday soon I will be planning my wedding, and don’t want to end up in over my head with work and wedding things. I was just trying to get some perspective of what the 2-3 weeks beforehand are really like!
Post # 6
If there’s no specific reason why she wants it at that time, I find it odd that she’s sticking to it even after you’ve reminded her of the busy work season. Wedding planning is crazy enough as is – if she insists on that date, I’d suggest hiring a wedding planner the month or two before the wedding to help tie up loose ends.
Post # 7
For me, it was really the 10 days beforehand that were really, really busy. I planned from afar, though, so I travelled to the location for that 10 days and just worked my butt off with last minute projects, vendor meetings, etc.. Even when I wasn’t busy, it was hard to relax because of all the to do lists running through my head and friends/family coming into town. So personally, no, I would not have planned my wedding during a time when I knew work would be crazy, and I wouldn’t recommend it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
It seems like a weird choice, but since it’s her choice, I think all you can do is… well, pretty much nothing. 🙂 I hope it doesn’t mean you’ll have to work harder when she’s out in lala land!
Post # 9
I think she’s crazy, but if that’s what she wants, then who am I to make her feel crappy, right?