Post # 1
I’m a budget bride and right now our wedding is over budget by $2,000 and I’m looking for places to cut down. Our dinner at our venue comes with a dessert but we were going to forgo this because of the wedding cake (we weren’t getting a discount for no dessert). Now we are thinking of getting a smaller wedding cake (just for cutting) and serving dessert.
Do you get dessert and wedding cake when you go to a wedding? Would you expect a piece of wedding cake?
I’m not a big cake person so I need help on this subject!! Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
I think most people would expect wedding cake, and no other dessert. I wouldn’t expect both, but would personally side eye getting just dessert, and not cake, especially if a cake was cut.
Post # 4
Our venue’s package included dessert, or if we wanted to have a cake they would have served the cake and a trio of sorbet and berries in exchange. We couldn’t find a cake we loved (Hubs was on cake duty and he’s quite particular), and since I didn’t really care about a cake, we just went with the dessert (a French apple and caramel tart with homemade vanilla ice cream) and offered a small sweet table with all of our favorite treats and sweets (cookies, squares, cupcakes, chocolate covered strawberries, truffles…..and Krispy Kreme donuts). No cake, but no one cared and everyone loved the treats!
It wasn’t important to us to cut a cake for the photo op, but I think it would be odd for you to have a cake, cut it, but then not serve it. If money is tight just go with the dessert you’re already paying for, or see if the venue will compromise at all on the price.
Post # 5
At all weddings I’ve been to, I’ve NEVER had a piece of the cake. I’ve seen the cake, and seen it being cut, but for some reason I’ve never been around when/if they’ve served it.
Probably because I’m too busy dancing.
Post # 6
I’ve been to one wedding where there was a smaller cake + cupcakes. In general, people went for the cup cakes. Also went to a huge wedding this summer, with around 200 guests, and the guests had a dessert table while the cake, although not smallish, was just for the family and wedding party. Don’t think anyone was upset, and it must have saved them a lot of money for cake that people don’t like that much anyway. So I would say, go ahead and order a smaller cake in combo with dessert!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think a small cake to cut plus a bunch of desserts for people to eat is fine, as long as the dessert is yummy!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I think most people would actually prefer the dessert to the cake, and since it’s included, I would serve it.
Post # 9
I with the pp who said most people expect cake.
With that being said, you can always get a small cake for cutting purposes, and get a big sheet cake to serve. They are relatively cheap and don’t have to be super fancy.
Post # 10
I ALWAYS thought that wedding cake was a must, I haven’t gotten married yet, but I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my friends wedding a few years ago… she had a big wedding cake and her mom cut it and the bridal party was supposed to serve it.. needless to say the only part of the bridal party that served it were myself and the Maid/Matron of Honor, so assuming I went to half of the guests to serve cake, only 1/4 of them accepted.
I was appalled! People know wedding cake is expensive, it’s there, you might as well eat it! For God’s sake, at least accept a piece and take it home! lol
I say get a small cake for the two of you for cutting then have a big sheet cake in the back and serve that to your guests!
Post # 11
I spend the whole reception looking forward to the cake, so if you’re going to have a cake on display and do the whole ceremonial cake cutting thing, I think you need to serve cake to your guests. I would find it really weird if the couple made a big show out of cutting the cake and then I never got to eat any!
Post # 12
@eocenia: This is exactly what we’re doing. We actually have like a million desserts, though. After dinner there will be apple blossoms with ice cream. *I* personally won’t be eating that. There is also a late-night crepes buffet, and cake pops that are being carried around and served. We’re doing a small cake to cut and cupcakes so that people can enjoy them throughout the night. No sweets table, so cupcakes will be there all night long for people 🙂