Post # 1
So I have a few people on my guest list with allergies, and they won’t be able to have our wedding cake. I plan on getting them each a separate cupcake they can eat from the bakery my cake is coming from.
Now here is my dilemma, I was mentioning to my fiance that we should ask them what kind of cake they like and get them what they want. My fiance thinks we should replicate the cake as much as possible, so it won’t seem different. I don’t really care which we do, I just want the cupcakes to be eaten 🙂
What do you think?
Post # 2
I’d probably just make it like your wedding cake. As someone with food allergies, I’m genuinely touched when people think of me and specifically buy something I can eat.
Post # 4
My fiancé has food restrictions and he would never assume that people would go to the trouble of making something special for him. He would just quietly not eat whatever it was and not make a big deal over it. Depending on the event (casual bbq at someone’s house) he might bring his own food so he could join in dinnertime. For a formal event like a wedding he would just go with the flow, either eat before or after or fill up on things he could eat.
It is so kind of you to want to make your guests feel welcomed by providing special cake for them. I agree with your husband that you should just make it as similar to the regular cake as possible and not try to ask everyone their fav flavor. Chances are with that you would end up with a regular non-dietary issue guest who got their nose out of joint. “Oh, so just because Sue can’t eat gluten she got to chose to have a lemon flavor cupcake. And here I have to eat red velvet. Doesn’t futuremrssousa know I can’t stand red velvet? Ugh.”
Post # 5
I generally cannot eat the wedding cake and would never expect the bride and groom to provide a special dessert for me. Anything you do will be greatly appreciated.
Post # 6
I think it’s lovely that you thought of it! One thing about making it the same as your wedding cake – it’s not always the best to duplicate a recipe and then just remove an ingredient. Things are often better tasting when they’re made with the available ingredients in mind already rather than just removing an ingredient and having a fake/inferior stand in.
As an example – Part of why carrot cake is so delicious is because of the cream cheese icing. So if you just sub the cream cheese icing with non-dairy then it’s not going to be nearly as good as a cake that actually goes better with non-dairy icing.
Long story short – I would pick whatever is most delicious rather than what is closest to your wedding cake.
Post # 8
+100. Same here. I have food allergies and never eat the cake (Except at my own wedding). So I would also be touched and super thrilled at the gesture. This is great and I want to thank you for your attitude towards your friends with food allergies. It is truly awesome. We tend to feel like a burden and it gets tiring after awhile so this will be refreshing for them. 🙂
Post # 9
We are planning on doing the same, as we will have around 20-30 total vegans, nut allergies, and gluten-free among our guests. Current plan is to try and replicate the wedding cake flavors as closely as possible in gluten-free, nut-safe, and vegan-friendly cupcakes. (3 different cupcakes, I don’t want to try and get one that is nut-safe, gluten free, and vegan. Something tells me that would be disgusting!)
Post # 10
As far as the guests yuou are trying to accommodate, they will likely just be hapoy to even have an option at all.
The general rule of thumb is more that you should have something of equivalent quality/value. So you shouldn’t have three layer cake with exotic fillings and decorated in 24k gold foil and serve your guests gas station cupcakes.
The flavors don’t need to be exactly matching but it should definitely not be obviously less than. I know personally, I prefer chocolate vs. Vanilla gluten-free goods because chocolate tends to mask the after-taste that some gluten-free flours can have. So I would also think about what is delicious within those dietary restrictions.
Post # 12
As someone with food allergies, I would already find it so thoughtful that you had gotten a seperate dessert that it wouldn’t make a bit of difference to me if it replicated the main cake or not 🙂