Wedding Cake sadness

posted 2 years ago in Food
Post # 2
146 posts
Blushing bee

I would graciously take a free cake. Has she made wedding cakes before? Is she reliable? If So, no hesitation, I would have a basket weave cake.

Assuming it’s tasteful (And tasty!), no one is going to care or remember what your cake looked like. It isn’t worth spending hundreds of dollars on if you can get it for free instead.


Post # 3
4505 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

She will only do basketweave? She can’t just do a plain, flat icing? It seems like if she can do basketweave (looks complicated), she’d be able to do just plain icing (much simpler & more modern).

But I can’t see the pic of your dream cake, so I son’t know what you want.

At any rate, it’s up to you — if it’s worth it to you to pay for a cake, then do it, but if the savings are more impportant, then ask her to make it. 

Post # 4
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

If she makes the basketweave and you use some real flowes to decorate? 

Post # 5
8745 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

I am confused is the photo what you want or what you are being offered? 

Post # 6
2253 posts
Buzzing bee

I’d rather pay for a cake that I like than get a cake I don’t like for free.

I think you should get the cake you want. It was nice of her to offer to make the cake, but you don’t have to accept it.

ETA: a PP said that no one would care about or remember what the cake looks like. Not only is that not true, it’s also neither here nor there as what’s important is what you care about and what you want to remember.

Post # 7
2458 posts
Buzzing bee

I’d rather pay for a cake I liked.  I also don’t like using “friendors” as it gets into sticky territory sometimes if the product delivered is subpar.

However, I find it hard to believe she can only do basketweave.  That seems much more difficult than many other iciing techniques.  (The pic of your dream cake didn’t post so I don’t know what you have in mind.)

Any idea on whether her cakes taste good?

Post # 8
1109 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

That’s really strange that she will only do a basketweave.  That looks a lot harder to make.  I agree with you that it’s a dated look.  I wouldn’t get the cake from her if has to do a basketweave.  

Post # 9
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Isn’t the pic you posted as your ideal cake a basketweave?

Post # 10
1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

 The pic you posted is basketweave right? What icing do you actually want?

Post # 11
2253 posts
Buzzing bee

jannigirl :  The photo of her dream cake isn’t showing up for some reason. There’s a small box where the photo should be.

Post # 12
2857 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

No one can see your “dream cake” so we cant offer much advice. I would assume that if she can do basket weave she is more than capable of doing flat icing? If you really hate the basket weave I would thank her but decline her offer. Using family friends as vendors hardly ever works out in the end so I would save myself the trouble. 

Post # 13
1750 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Honestly I’ve seen too many judge judy episodes where friends sued each other over services and too many horror stories on here. 

I would never use a friend for a service unless we had a contract and I was paying them because I wanted them to do it. 

IMO find a baker in your price range and get what you want. We got ours $200 off because we paid cash so you can always see if someone will do that for you. 

Post # 15
99 posts
Worker bee

I can do basket weave and it’s not THAT difficult but it does take a really long time and you need a steady hand both to apply and correct your mistakes. I don’t see why you can’t work with her to get your dream cake done. If she has the time/talent to make a basket weave she can defintely do what you’re looking for. Ask her to do a decroating trail with you on some foam to practice? If she’s offering to do it for free maybe offer to compensate her some for taking the time to learn a new technique? 

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