Wedding Cake sadness

posted 1 year ago in Food
Post # 16
215 posts
Helper bee

Wow, that is weird. Why would a cake maker only be able to do one style of icing? Anyway, if it were me, I would first try to negotiate with the friend – like would she be willing to back the cake and have someone else do the icing? Honestly, I almost feel like you could just do the icing yourself if all you want is something plain. If she held firm on only doing basketweave, I would thank her but decline. I’m not super picky on what my cake looks like but I’m not going to have one that I hate.

Post # 17
3837 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Your dream cake looks like buttercream with circles spread on it, I can’t imagine that’s harder than basketweave! (Btw I think the picture of the basketweave cake is gorgeous though)

Post # 18
648 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I am assuming that she has the ability to do the style you wanted but in her professional opinion, the basket weave will hold up and look best.  The style you chose appears to be a soft cream icing and would not stand up to sitting out for hours, that soft style also could not be made much ahead of time, unlike the basket weave which appears to be a marzipan/hard style icing and could be made well ahead of time and will last practically forever.  I would respect her opinion, I would also jump on an offer for a free cake.

Post # 19
2254 posts
Buzzing bee

The cake you want is pretty. I think you should go to a baker and pay for it.

Others suggested trying to work with her on it to see if she’ll do it, but I think that’s a great way to cause much more conflict, trouble, and negative emotions than should be involved in getting a wedding cake. She said she only does basketweave, so taking her at her word and going elsewhere would probably be best.

Post # 20
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Honestly? I’d pay for a cake I like. The basketweave is pretty awful looking and your cake inspiration is beautiful. The basketweave is bad enough that I’d take the splurge and buy one.

Post # 21
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

oregonbride82 :  You could do what I’m doing, and cut the cake immediately after you make your entrance into the reception hall.  That way no one even has time to look at the cake!  I’m actually sad that my cake won’t get more attention, but we’re using it as dessert and I want dinner to flow as much as possible. 

ETA:  The cake I ordered looks just like yours!  I bought mine from the most reputable baker in town, and it cost less than 300 dollar that feeds 100 people

Post # 22
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK

It really depends on how much the cake means to you, but I personally would choose to pay for a cake I like rather than accept a free one I don’t like.

Post # 23
9846 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

This is you from the future speaking:

Save the money and take the free cake. Use the cake money to buy yourself a nice splurge purchase.

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