Post # 1
So one of the few things I have left to figure out for my wedding is the cake. So here are my concerns:
1) Personally, most cakes I don’t like. I do like some cakes though (ice cream cake, cake with whipped frosting, chocolate cake!)
2) My mom offered to make my wedding cake, but… I’m concerned because she is not an experienced baker, I’m afraid she’ll make me pay for all the supplies because she’s usually broke half the time, overall I’m just afraid the cake will cost more time and money than it’s worth based on how it looks and tastes…
3) I don’t want to spend money on a cake noone is going to really eat, especially because all the weddings I went to, I either didn’t eat the cake, or didn’t like the cake that I did eat.
4) I do like the idea of having something beautiful and edible at the same time.
Some of my ideas:
1. My mom make my cake
2. Buy a wedding cake from Publix
3. Get/Make a two-tiered cake for FI and I and make Cupcakes for the guests
4. Buy pre-made cakes from Publix and make it our wedding cake (or just dessert in general) I actually saw two cakes there today that I totally wanted to buy right then, and then Freeze it for my wedding (If I could do that!). One would be the Bride’s cake, and the other the Groom’s cake. They looked so delicious and pretty. And only would be paying $45 for both! lol
5. Have a dessert spread, which would totally go with our Tea Party Wedding theme…..
Does anyone else have any other ideas?
Post # 3
If you don’t like cake that much try walmart (48 for 2 tier or 130 for 3 tier) or a local grocery store
Post # 4
I would just buy/make a very small cake for you and FI to cut, and buy plain sheet cakes to be served to the guests.
Post # 5
Its too bad you have concerns about your mom, because I would’ve totally recommended having someone you know bake it! It really doesn’t matter if they are super experienced or not – as long as they put in the dedication to learn how to do it, and take their time and practice once or twice. Two years ago I decided I wanted to learn how to make cakes (both with and without fondant), and after doing some online reading, just jumped into it! I made a few (I think 3) birthday cakes, and was asked to make a wedding cake for my cousin. She had ~200 guests, so I had to make a 6 tiered cake AND a sheet cake. At this point, I think I had made 3 cakes and one set of cupcakes in my life. They turned out great – and it was all because I did my research and took my time. I obviously knew her wedding day was incredibly important, so I made sure to work my ass off to make them look professional.
Around my venue, cupcakes are a lot cheaper than cakes, so I would recommend thinking about doing that. I know they are a lot easier to make, and if you (or someone you know) spent an afternoon learning how to pipe, you could also make them yourself to cut costs.
I also really like the idea of a dessert spread. So you don’t like cake – its YOUR wedding! Serve what you want! You could have different pies, or small dessert spread with mousse, macaroons, cookies, etc. If you just can’t let go of the picture of cutting the cake, have a small 1-2 tiered cake for the cutting, but put more of your money into what you do like! It will mean more to you and your guests if you are doing something that is right for you. I’m not sure how reliable your friends/familes are, but a friend of mine had a “dessert potluck” at her wedding. All of her close family members brought their signature dessert dish – it was a HUGE success, was really unique, and everyone who contributed felt like they were a part of the wedding.
FYI, just another thought – something we’ve considered doing for both style and (possible) cost cutting is doing a few basic cakes in different flavors, along with a small bride/groom cake in the flavor we would want. That way, you can offer your guests who do love cake choices, while keeping your favorite flavor for yourself.
Post # 6
If you don’t like cake totally do a dessert spread! It’s your wedding- make it what YOU want! I am the opposite- I LOVE cake! So as a guest I would notice if the cake was from a grocery store. For my wedding, it was really important to us that the guests would enjoy the cake as much as we did, and we spent a lot of time finding our bakery. So if cake isn’t your thing, find something that is! If you’re doing a tea party wedding a dessert spread sounds amazing and perfect and delicious! That way, you can get what you want and your guests will enjoy it too. Besides, when it comes to dessert, variety is never a bad thing! : )
Post # 7
@FutureDrScott: Thanks for your reply! The problem is my mom’s idea of baking a cake is buying some already prepared cake Mix, the kind you just add water…… I might as well just buy the pre-made cake I saw at Publix for $25. I just want to do whatever is cheapest and at the same time, what my guests will enjoy the most. But I don’t know what my guests like! D:
Post # 8
@raziel1687: You could do pies, or squares, or a random assortment of desserts.
Or, you could skip the cake altogether. Are you having dessert served with your meal? Assuming you’re having a meal that is. We found we were so full after all the food and desserts no one really even cared about the cake. Plus, we had squares at the late lunch.
Post # 9
Why not get a little cake for you and Fi to cut from Publix if you wan tto keep with that tradition, and do your desert spread that goes with your theme? I think that sounds super cute! Don’t let your mom make the cake, that is a recipe (no pun intended) for disaster!
Post # 10
@raziel1687: I think do the dessert spread and maybe just have one cake for the cutting not even really eating just like mushing a lil in each others face to be funny
Post # 11
Try getting a pretty (but small) cake that you can cut for photos, etc. I am getting a small 2 tier so we can cut the bottom layer on wedding night and save the top for 1 year anniv. We are doing sheet cakes for the rest of our guests.
Go to publix, or anywhere else you want, and get sheet cakes- keep them in the back for caterers to cut- shet cakes are easier to cut than round/decorative ones, they can be cut ahead of time rather than racing the big cake into the back, and are SO MUCH CHEAPER!
As nice as it is for your mom to make a cake, that’s a lot of pressure, and she will have tons of other stuff to worry about- baking doesn’t need to be one of them!
I also went to a wedding last fall where the bride and groom got a bunch of pies from a local farm stand and jsut had those- premade, ready to go, and since they were local, pretty cheap!
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
I think cupcakes would be a great idea. I feel like people are more apt to eating those. Also, I am a fan of a desert spread.
I would vote to not allow your mom to bake you the cake (unless it is just a small one for you and FI.
Post # 13
Cupcakes are great. FI and I are going with 2 basic flavors: Chocolate and Vanilla with a whipped icing and we also are going with 2 gourmet flavors, our favorite: Coffee flavored cake with chocolate icing, caramel drizzle and a chocolate covered espresso bean on top and a white almond with blueberry filling and a blueberry whipped icing.
We have a variety. 120 cupcakes and it’s going to cost us just under $130.
We found a baker that does this business out of her home instead of going through a professional wedding cake baker. We couldn’t get a professional baker to return our calls or emails. As a wedding professional in the business myself, we didn’t appreciate this lack of response from a professional. This woman is only charging us $1 for regular flavored and $1.25 for gourmet flavored.
Plus, we are getting a small 6 inch coffee flavored cake (like the cupcakes) just for us to cut for the cake cutting.
Also, in my area, a cookie table is very popular. Family members are going to make a variety of cookies for guests.