(Closed) Wedding canceled/ child porn..Advice needed (GRAPHIC)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What should I do?
    Say it to the cops : (731 votes)
    35 %
    Leave and Don't marry him : (558 votes)
    27 %
    Give him a chance : (6 votes)
    0 %
    He's still lying : (292 votes)
    14 %
    He can be telling the truth : (17 votes)
    1 %
    That is sick : (469 votes)
    23 %
    There is nothing wrong with that, you're overreacting : (3 votes)
    0 %
  • Post # 3
    845 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I don’t think I could be with someone that I couldn’t trust. Would you ever feel comfortable leaving your daughter with him again? I think his rationale is WRONG and the fact that he did the password thing or whatever is WRONG. He’s trying to be deceitful and you deserve someone you can trust. I am so sorry! 

    Post # 4
    945 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Having child pornography on your computer is a crime. Sure he may be a “good person” and not actually do anything with your daughter, but that doesn’t make it any better. I think that the best solution to this situation would be to inform the police and to leave him. 

    Don’t look back. You’ll want to, you’ll be heartbroken I’m sure, but you shouldn’t go back to him. 

    Post # 5
    143 posts
    Blushing bee


    Post # 6
    6512 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Leave, and report it to the cops.  That shit is NOT okay, and people like him are helping awful abuse continue.  I feel completely sick to my stomach now.  Don’t think a second more about it, get out and please protect your child.  He is not a good man – he is disgusting and deserves jail time. 

    Post # 7
    4675 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    i would, at the least, make him go into counciling, and prove to you that he has stopped child porn before he is ever left alone with your child.  

    Post # 8
    682 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m so sorry you’re going through this.  It is really unimaginable.  I think when dealing with child pornography it is a black and white area in my opinion.  Watching a child get raped no matter what the purpose is so sick.  And he looked at more than one thing like that (and this is just the stuff you found, who knows what else there is).   I would report it to the police and end the relationship…. I can’t imagine how hard this will be for you but having those thoughts in your head wondering if he’s been inappropriate with your daughter- ugh I could vomit just thinking about it.  I’m so sorry.  

    Post # 9
    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would turn him in to the police for this felony.

    Post # 10
    9674 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    Child porn is NOT OK. Tell the cops!!

    Watching normal porn and masturbating is perfectly fine, but child pornography? NO AY!

    Post # 11
    327 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Canal St Inn

    NO. NO NO NO NO NO. DO NOT stay with this man. Find a safe place for you and your daughter, leave when he is not there, do not tell him when you’re going or where you’re going. Do not leave a note. Call the police as soon as you find a safe place. Threatening sucide if you call the police for his illegal and extremely disturbing actions is emotional manipulation and it is abuse. Get out now. The love of your life was an illusion, and an incredibly dangerous and damaging one.

    I am so sorry that you are going through this. I cannot imagine the pain and betrayal you must be feeling, and I wish that I could take that away for you. The only thing I can tell you is that the sooner you get out, the sooner you can heal. Please do not consider spending another minute in the same room as this man.

    Post # 12
    291 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    no matter how guilty he seems and how ‘honest’ you believe him to be, child pornography is morally wrong and totally unacceptable. i would feel absolutely SICK to my stomach if i new someone was into this, least of all my partner.

    do the RIGHT THING: Call the police without him knowing that way he cant abscond.

    Post # 13
    777 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Absolutely, 100%, without a doubt, NOT OK. Run and report it to the police, end of story.

    Post # 14
    6123 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My 20 year old neighbor girl married a 20 year old guy.  Evidentally there was a huge child porn bust about a year ago, where this guy was on the list.  The cops came into their home at 3am, confiscated him and his computer.  My neighbor had no idea what was going on.  They were LDS and married in the Mormon temple.  I’m sure this little Mormon girl thought he was good enough too!  I mean she came from a great family, so did he, he wanted to be a cop, they married in the temple.  It’s all mostly a cover up!

    Yes, he went to jail.  They had been following him for months.  They had enough proof to arrest him.  Yes, it is a crime.


    I really think you NEED TO TELL THE COPS.  They could already have been following him.

    Your relationship is DONE FOREVER with this man. 

    Post # 15
    5800 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Good people do not have child pornography on their computers. Full stop. End of story. I would be calling the cops.

    Post # 16
    13289 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Call the cops.  Better yet, bring your laptop to the police station.  This is a crime, and he is destroying the lives of young children.  I read some victim impact statements of children forced into sexual abuse for a class in grad school, and one of them said, “Every time someone looks at the pictures, I am raped again.” THAT is what this man is doing to young children.  Report the abuse, send him to jail, and petition for FULL CUSTODY of your child on these grounds.  And document all of this for evience for your full custody.

    DO NOT leave your child alone with him.

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