(Closed) Wedding Canceled, Help

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think you did the right thing by calling off the wedding.  I don’t care what words were exchanged, it is really really wrong for your Fiance to get in a physical fight with your father.  I would no want to be with a man who was prone to violence with anyone, but someone who couldn’t show respect to my father? Not a chance.

Post # 18
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wow, I’m sorry you are stuck in the middle of this! Was your Dad like this with any other guys you dated? Is your fiance like this with other people besides your dad?

Post # 19
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Wow, that sucks!

If your dad is anything like mine then he won’t listen to bully you say to him.

Talk with your FI! Give him some well deserved crap over his actions which led to this situation. Not saying he is necessarily in the wrong but there had to be another way of dealing with things which wouldn’t have ended up like this.

If your dad does listen to you though, then don’t let him bully you like that either. Don’t cancel your wedding just because of one or two little fights amongst family members. He’s your family now and tell that to your dad point blank.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This is the first time I have ever heard of such a thing!

You REALLY need to get to the bottom of this. Yes, you DO need to know what triggered these fights. That will help you ‘fix’ your problem in a way nothing else will. You need to KNOW the problem first before trying to fix it. No rocket science there.

Post # 21
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sarahsue1507: Why do they hate each other so much? I can’t imagine being torn between my Fiance and a family member!

Post # 22
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4633 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

This sounds horrible.  I am so sorry.  I can’t give any advice but have a hug {{HUG}}

Post # 23
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5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Why does your Dad not like him? Is it something specific? Does he think he is treating you badly? Or does your Dad do this with all the guys you date?

Post # 24
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882 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I honestly don’t think you should do anything at all, just take a breather. I think whatever is going on between the two, will have to be resolved between the two. Because I’m sure one or the other will feel like you are taking sides. Which would suck! It’s so hard to even fathom what happened and to get through that kind of situation! But it’ll all work out : )

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2001

is there any underlying reason as to why your fiance and your dad would act this way? in the end of the day, the way i see things, it would make life easier if you could at least fully understand why they would turn on eachother in this fashion and then perhaps take it from there. in any case, i am so sorry you have to go through this. much love xxxx

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

So awful=( I am so sorry that you are going through this.  I really wish I had more advice for you but I just can’t even imagine.  Is family/group/premarital therapy an option?

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