Post # 1
My fiance and I planned a beautiful destination wedding for June 2020. However, we had to cancel due to uncertainty with COVID and not wanting anyone to be at risk due to coming to our wedding. We were also hesitant to have an “extravagent” event when so many of our loved ones have lost jobs and are now experiencing financial hardship. So, while it sucks we had to cancel, we feel we’re doing the right thing. Instead, we plan to elope in Alaska (where we live) with our parents, my fiance’s sister, and my aunt (like a second mom to me). 7 guests in total plus my fiance and I.
I’m wondering if anyone has any cool ideas for elopements?! I was wondering if there’s a way to do like a group ceremony where every guest has a role. Maybe they each write a part of the ceremony? I would love to hear sweet, creative ideas. I want it to be super romantic, special, intimate. We don’t have an officiant but one of our parents or one of us can be the technical officiant and then just do the ceremony however we want. Please give ideas for how to have a super special ceremony that doesn’t just use one officiant but instead ties everyone in!
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2020 - Santa Barbara
Well first thing is do you have your marriage license already? If not you might have a hard time getting it if things are shut down so I would start with that first.
Post # 3
We don’t have a wedding certificate yet! We’ll do end of June, but if that doesn’t work out, we’ll just do it in August. We’re more trying to plan the ceremony itself 😀
Post # 4
Are you sure you are going to be allowed to have a gathering of 9 or 10 people ? Or that you should be planning it and expecting people to attend even if allowed ? These are extraordinary times after all.
And, as a pp says do you have the license already, because if not that may be a problem. An actual elopement, not the smallish wedding you describe, might be possible but l kind of feel you are not really taking in the enormity of the global situation. Understandable of course because you must be feeling, as are thousands of others, really disappointed .
Post # 5
Really not sure how you could say we aren’t taking in the enormity of the situation–we are CANCELING our wedding. And being very flexible about the date of our completely revised elopement/micro wedding. This post is asking for help coming up with a ceremony…if someone could help with cute ideas that’d be amazing!
Post # 6
What part of Alaska are you in? If it were me, and everyone you’re wanting there was up for it, I would continue to follow social distancing by hiking into somewhere gorgeous with your family. Have your ceremony somewhere beautiful with a great view.
You can definitely have everyone involved. If you don’t have an actual officiant, choose someone to do the main part of the wedding. Then you can ask each person to find a reading that means something to them, or a short little speech about you guys to add in to the ceremony. I think that would be really special.
And depending on what’s allowed in June, don’t forget about photos! Hire a photographer or bring a camera on a tripod and capture some great photos!
Post # 7
We cancelled our original plan weeks ago. We got married Saturday! I found a free park, verified with everyone that they were okay with 10 of us being there (our immediate family) – our county is still listed at 10 people or less. Only had one vendor say they were uncomfortable – he is a very close friend of mine and I completely understood! We would have done it just the two of us if our photographer and officiant had said they would have preferred just us. I am not sure on a way to incorporate everyone into the ceremony as we had an officiant but I wanted to say that although it was raining, freakishly cold for our region and just our parents and siblings it was seriously a day we will never forget and so very special how intimate it was. Our pictures are amazing and I couldn’t have planned anything better.
You’ll figure something out and it’ll be more than you could have imagined!
Post # 8
Whenever you’re able to have it:
Hands down, the best wedding I went to they had one friend playing the violin and another actively painting their wedding portrait. Each bridesmaid chose their own dress (they were all navy). Groomsman had their own unique accents. Each set of parents shared a “Welcome to the family” speech during the ceremony.
Afterwards the reception was a family style, covered dish gathering geared as “recipes for the newlyweds” and each dish was accompanied with the recipe. Many were family recipes.
Wishing you the best; thank you for making an undoubtedly hard decision and recognizing that even if we get a miracle in summer, many will still be recovering.