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Wannabee
Hello! My name is Cassie and my fiancé and I just recently got engaged. He’s in the Army and lives about 7 1/2 hours away from me. If I’m lucky, I see him about once a month. I was raised Catholic by an Italian and very Catholic mother and my fiancé was never really raiaed with any religion. i don’t necessarily “fit in” with the traditional Catholic beliefs so I stopped attending church regularly when I was 18. My mother is insisting on us getting married in a church but we were originally thinking of just having a religious officiant preside over our ceremony in our reception area. We don’t plan on continuing to practixe Catholicism after we’re married and from what I understand, it’s quite a difficult process to go through to be married in the Catholic church. Any and all advice is welcomed! Thank you!
Post # 3
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Worker bee
- Wedding: April 2014 - Customs House Resturant Geelong
Welcome to the Bee!
My Sister went through a similar situation. Our mum and dad are very Christian, insisted that she (and I) get married at their church. I refused as my FI and I are not religious, so we are having a celebrant. But my sister compromised and is having mum and dads priest perform the ceremony, but in their choice of location. could you do something similar? choose your location, but still have a catholic priest? Just remember to be strong, the ceremony is the most important part. Decide what you and your FI want to do and stick to your guns, but if you can comfortably compromise, i recommend that.
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Busy bee
@Cass5889: Do what feels right for you. Always go with your gut and you’ll never have regrets.
Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
I think it’s really not right to participate in a religious marriage ceremony if you’re not a believer. That’s one of the reasons my Fi and I are only doing a civil ceremony even though my mom is pretty mad about that. Maybe consider a “non-denominational” officiant who can incorporate a sense of spirituality that isn’t really too religious. I mean, I was raised catholic, but don’t consider myself catholic any more, and I’d feel like a complete hypocrite getting married in a church, but I do think incorporating some concept of a higher power fits better with my beliefs.
its not likely though that you’ll find a catholic priest to marry you outside the church.
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